[Munchkins]

I think it's just lazy to slap someone tbh to discipline them, it's better to discuss points on both sides, slapping and hitting shows that the parent is unwilling to discuss what has gone wrong tbh and why the argument has occured..
When you're little maybe a slap on the bum as a punishment is ok, but this girl is 14, so i think hitting is extreme :SS
i've never been hit by my parents, except by a cushion once

"Before I even had time to think what I was doing"

shows hitting is not a way for overall effective discipline, its just heat of the moment action..
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[Livia]

I have the best set of parents in the world. I couldn't have hoped for better. I love and respect them totally and I consider myself lucky to be their child... and yet I've been slapped once or twice. It's kind of annoying to hear people paint them as "lazy" or " out of control" because they have smacked both me and my brother when we were kids.

People get all wound up by a parent chosing to discipline their own child with a smack. And meanwhile, kids languish in children's homes, suffer abuse and neglect and sometimes die at the hands of violent parents. There are worse things in the world than a smack administered with restraint from a parent who loves you.

[Munchkins]

Originally Posted by Livia

I have the best set of parents in the world. I couldn't have hoped for better. I love and respect them totally and I consider myself lucky to be their child... and yet I've been slapped once or twice. It's kind of annoying to hear people paint them as "lazy" or " out of control" because they have smacked both me and my brother when we were kids.

People get all wound up by a parent chosing to discipline their own child with a smack. And meanwhile, kids languish in children's homes, suffer abuse and neglect and sometimes die at the hands of violent parents. There are worse things in the world than a smack administered with restraint from a parent who loves you.

Were you 14? i find it fine for a younger child, and i do think it works but i just think its a lot different for a 14 year old tbh :S

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Munchkins

Were you 14? i find it fine for a younger child, and i do think it works but i just think its a lot different for a 14 year old tbh :S

By the time I got to 14 I had more respect for my parents than ever to have slammed the door in their face.

[armand.kay]

Originally Posted by Livia

By the time I got to 14 I had more respect for my parents than ever to have slammed the door in their face.

This my mum stopped hitting me when I was like 8 but I still would never think of slamming a door in her face. I mean I've argues with her but I've never disrespected her.

[Tom4784]

Having to resort to hitting your kids is a sign of bad parenting, if the only thing they respond to is violence then you've ****ed up somewhere.

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Having to resort to hitting your kids is a sign of bad parenting, if the only thing they respond to is violence then you've ****ed up somewhere.

Agreed! If you can't talk to your kids then you're doing something wrong.

[arista]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

Agreed! If you can't talk to your kids then you're doing something wrong.

But she was talking to the 14 year old
Then Bang - The Door was Slammed in her face

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by arista

But she was talking to the 14 year old
Then Bang - The Door was Slammed in her face

..so she reacted back with violence..what lesson does that teach..?...

[arista]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..so she reacted back with violence..what lesson does that teach..?...

Do Not Cross The Line.



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[Kazanne]

This pretty hard for me to answer as when I look around at some of the kids of today , they seem out of control , rude and inconsiderate , these are the ones from that time when discipline in schools was forbidden and parental discipline challenged , not ALL kids but certainly some take advantage of knowing they cannot be punished much , even by policemen . I think whatever works for you is fine , I got the odd clip around the ear ,but never more than that as I was too afraid to push the boundries ,some kids aren't , infact they seem to delight in being disruptive and rude,so for that reason I think it's not such a good thing not to be able to punish them by a swift clip,my mom and dad were quite strict and today I am quite happy they were,I don't think it is a bad thing if it's not done too much.

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

This pretty hard for me to answer as when I look around at some of the kids of today , they seem out of control , rude and inconsiderate , these are the ones from that time when discipline in schools was forbidden and parental discipline challenged , not ALL kids but certainly some take advantage of knowing they cannot be punished much , even by policemen . I think whatever works for you is fine , I got the odd clip around the ear ,but never more than that as I was too afraid to push the boundries ,some kids aren't , infact they seem to delight in being disruptive and rude,so for that reason I think it's not such a good thing not to be able to punish them by a swift clip,my mom and dad were quite strict and today I am quite happy they were,I don't think it is a bad thing if it's not done too much.

I agree, but some parents go too far. If you make someone bleed then that's assault in my book.

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

I agree, but some parents go too far. If you make someone bleed then that's assault in my book.

I think sometimes it's is done out of fright or frustration Vanessa,my little boy is always up to mischief and I have shouted at him as he has scared me sometimes,he is a devil for putting stuff in his mouth(something I have a fear of)he is also sent to the naughty step,I find the thing that works best is taking something off them they like.And no you'de never go so far as to make anyone bleed.

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

I think sometimes it's is done out of fright or frustration Vanessa,my little boy is always up to mischief and I have shouted at him as he has scared me sometimes,he is a devil for putting stuff in his mouth(something I have a fear of)he is also sent to the naughty step,I find the thing that works best is taking something off them they like.And no you'de never go so far as to make anyone bleed.

I know toddlers can be really hard work. My two year old nephew is just like Dennis the menace! Always up to no good!

[LemonJam]

I really, really hate these threads. My mum really is the best I could ever ask for and every punishment she's given me has been warranted. I'm not going to have anyone tell me otherwise because not only are they saying she's a bad parent but it's implying I'm poorly raised, which as conceited as it may sound I'm really, really not. :\

Yes it can get taken too far, but from the people I know most people who were smacked/slapped every now and then don't hold a grudge against their parents and in hindsight they can see why they did it.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

I really, really hate these threads. My mum really is the best I could ever ask for and every punishment she's given me has been warranted. I'm not going to have anyone tell me otherwise because not only are they saying she's a bad parent but it's implying I'm poorly raised, which as conceited as it may sound I'm really, really not. :\

Yes it can get taken too far, but from the people I know most people who were smacked/slapped every now and then don't hold a grudge against their parents and in hindsight they can see why they did it.

Completelyagree. I thought I was on my own here... It makes me mad to have my wonderful parents' child-rearing skills called into question.

[In the Drunk Tank]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

I really, really hate these threads. My mum really is the best I could ever ask for and every punishment she's given me has been warranted. I'm not going to have anyone tell me otherwise because not only are they saying she's a bad parent but it's implying I'm poorly raised, which as conceited as it may sound I'm really, really not. :\

Yes it can get taken too far, but from the people I know most people who were smacked/slapped every now and then don't hold a grudge against their parents and in hindsight they can see why they did it.

Agree with this, annoys me when people generalise those who occasionally smack their kids as bad parents

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

Occasionally is fine, but not when it's everyday.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Agree with this, annoys me when people generalise those who occasionally smack their kids as bad parents

I'm not saying it makes someone a bad parent, I'm saying that I don't think It's the right way to discipline a child. I just can't see how hitting someone is a good way to teach them right from wrong.

And to those saying well my parents hit me and I'm fine, did they hit you when you were a teenager?

[Santa's NaughtiNess]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm not saying it makes someone a bad parent, I'm saying that I don't think It's the right way to discipline a child. I just can't see how hitting someone is a good way to teach them right from wrong.

And to those saying well my parents hit me and I'm fine, did they hit you when you were a teenager?

I agree with you, Niamh. I think it's always wrong. I suppose the occasional slap can do harm, but it's better to talk to the kids instead of hitting them.

[Me. I Am Salman]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

I really, really hate these threads. My mum really is the best I could ever ask for and every punishment she's given me has been warranted. I'm not going to have anyone tell me otherwise because not only are they saying she's a bad parent but it's implying I'm poorly raised, which as conceited as it may sound I'm really, really not. :\

Yes it can get taken too far, but from the people I know most people who were smacked/slapped every now and then don't hold a grudge against their parents and in hindsight they can see why they did it.

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[Sam:)]

How is hitting a child right? Your supposed to teach your children how to resolve problems etc. Hitting just shows them that you can resolve a problem with hitting... If I hit my girlfriend because she slammed a door on me, would I get in trouble?? Yes. Just use words etc.

[armand.kay]

Had I slammed that door in my mums face she would of karate kicked the door open and took me out faster than I could say child abuse

[Kizzy]

I think this is laughable.... how we overanalyse simple parent/child relationships nowadays.

[Petershaw1984]

hmmm tough one this.

coming from a childhood where my father eould regularly beat my mother and give me a good smack now and again made me stay on the right path. i would never lift a fonger to my kids ever ever ever.

but i think a teenager at the age of 14 knows the differemce between right and wrong so knows that by slamming a door or answering back is punishable. slapping her on the bum. not that bad. full on beating? never.