[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

These people aren't in open relationships... well, one is but the other has no clue.
It is deceptive and you would've thought the new moral army would've been championing this lil stunt... but no.
Why? because it's business, and nothing gets in the way of business.

no duhh Kizzy, if they were in an open relationship they wouldn't need to pay to be a member of a website like this. that was my whole point.

obviously this website is only for people in monogamous relationships.

The whole point of the website, and why it was so successful, is that it advertised to people who were in MONOGAMOUS relationships.

you can't "cheat" in an open relationship. there's no such thing.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by lostalex

no duhh Kizzy, if they were in an open relationship they wouldn't need to pay to be a member of a website like this. that was my whole point.

obviously this website is only for people in monogamous relationships.

The whole point of the website, and why it was so successful, is that it advertised to people who were in MONOGAMOUS relationships.

you can't "cheat" in an open relationship. there's no such thing.

Why are you duhhing at me?... I don't care what your point is.
I would've thought even in an open relationship there was a degree of exclusivity, as in as much as you have more than one partner but all are aware of one another?

[smudgie]

Try before you buy, get to know someone really really well before you commit.
Maybe it is harder to find your soulmate nowadays, I don't know.
Hubby and I have been together 38 years on Sunday, we manage to communicate very well, in bed, out of bed, hanging from chandeliers and anywhere else that takes your imagination.
Real loves carries on growing, as does the good sex, all this talk of getting bored etc normally boils down to rushing into a marriage through infatuation

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by smudgie

Try before you buy, get to know someone really really well before you commit.
Maybe it is harder to find your soulmate nowadays, I don't know.
Hubby and I have been together 38 years on Sunday, we manage to communicate very well, in bed, out of bed, hanging from chandeliers and anywhere else that takes your imagination.
Real loves carries on growing, as does the good sex, all this talk of getting bored etc normally boils down to rushing into a marriage through infatuation

how long was the longest relationship you've been in?

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by lostalex

how long was the longest relationship you've been in?

Well, this one is 38 years and going strong.
I had 4 years of trying before you buy before I met him.
Purely for sex mainly, like a kid in a sweetshop really once I discovered I liked it.
The big secret is learning that sexual attraction and infatuation wear off eventually, so wait a good while and sow those wild oats before you commit to one person.
Hard Lesson, but if worked for me in the long run.

[Scarlett.]

Bet divorce lawyers the world over are rubbing their hands in glee, lol.

[Crimson Dynamo]

this whole thread is giving me my marriage teas

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

this whole thread is giving me my marriage teas

aww

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

this whole thread is giving me my marriage teas

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[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by lostalex

hot talented asian chick just for you!

Youtube video

she looks so sweet but her lyrics are quite disgusting

[arista]

[Do YOU trust your partner? Millions
of suspicious spouses crash websites
set up to find names of
Ashley Madison 'cheaters' as
map reveals locations of men
and women registered
with the adultery website ]

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz3jMZeBP6f

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by arista

[Do YOU trust your partner? Millions
of suspicious spouses crash websites
set up to find names of
Ashley Madison 'cheaters' as
map reveals locations of men
and women registered
with the adultery website ]

Read more: http://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/arti...#ixzz3jMZeBP6f

You look at that and think - "way to go Canada"

then you remember that like 90% of Canada live 50 miles from the USA border and its like


Canada you slut

[Kizzy]

It's always the quiet ones...

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

It's always the quiet ones...

yeah, them and the unquiet ones

[arista]

2 on the site in Canada
have taken their lives after they were put out in the public

[Ammi]

..none of the suicides have been confirmed as directly linked but another one...

A police captain took his own life days after his official email address was found among the massive data leak from cheating website Ashley Madison. The 25-year veteran of the City of San Antonio police department was one of three officials who saw their email addresses leaked as part of the huge information dump, though it remains unclear whether the man's suicide was directly linked to the Ashley Madison leak.

IBTimes UK has confirmed that the officer's email address was listed among the millions. However, as Ashley Madison doesn't require users to verify email addresses, it is impossible to say who used the address for certain. The suicide was first reported by the San Antonio Express News which doesn't identify the person in question and said it "wasn't clear whether his death had anything to do with the leak".

Hackers known as the Impact Team released the private details of over 36 million customers of the cheating website on Sunday, 16 August. In subsequent days the private details of millions of people were publicised around the world including details of how much they paid to subscribe to the website and even their sexual fantasies.

According to data from the leaked Ashley Madison customer database, there are 99,157 accounts located in the City of San Antonio in Texas which has a population of 1.4 million, making it the 14th biggest city in the world in terms of accounts on the affairs website. Three of those accounts had official government email addresses (@sanantonio.gov). Two of those accounts are said to be linked to members of the San Antonia police department (a detective and the captain who died by suicide), while the third email address is said to have belonged to a former city employee.

A statement from city officials said because Ashley Madison doesn't verify email addresses it "cannot confirm whether these addresses were legitimately used to access the site." The statement goes on to say: "The City does use internet filters to block access to various websites, including the Ashley Madison site, which has been blocked for some time from City employees."

The fallout from the Ashley Madison leak continues with the hackers posting a second data dump on Friday which contains a huge amount of private emails from the site's co-founder Noel Biderman.

In their first interview, the hackers told Motherboard they still had a huge amount of data which was yet to be released, including 300GB of employee emails and documents from Avid Life Media's internal network. It said that while it won't be publishing most employee emails, it may decide to publish those belonging to other executives.

Even more worrying for customers of the cheating website, the hackers say they have "tens of thousands of Ashley Madison user pictures [and] some Ashley Madison user chats and messages". The hackers said that one third of the images were pictures of customers' penises and it wouldn't be publishing these.

The identity of the hackers remains a mystery, but Avid Life Media (ALM), the parent company of Ashley Madison, believes that at least one of the hackers has had access to its systems previously, though not as a permanent employee. In their interview with Motherboard, the hackers compared ALM to "drug dealers abusing addicts" and said it published the private customer data to stop the next 60 million people from signing up to the website.

When asked if they were planning to attack any other websites, the hackers warned that it was not only companies that were at risk: "Any companies that make 100s of millions profiting off pain of others, secrets, and lies. Maybe corrupt politicians. If we do, it will be a long time, but it will be total."



..really the actions of these hackers is deplorable..they have no right to act in judgement of anything, no one has or to release any personal information...

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Ammi

"tens of thousands of Ashley Madison user pictures"

...

"one third of the images were pictures of customers' penises"

****ing brilliant! Maybe people will now learn that you should at least wait until you take a conversation to snapchat or WhatsApp before sending dikpix .

Also I get the overwhelming impression that if people are taking all of this so hard that they're killing themselves, then frankly, they take themselves / life / sex all far too seriously .

[MTVN]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

****ing brilliant! Maybe people will now learn that you should at least wait until you take a conversation to snapchat or WhatsApp before sending dikpix .

Also I get the overwhelming impression that if people are taking all of this so hard that they're killing themselves, then frankly, they take themselves / life / sex all far too seriously .

Bit unsympathetic, we have no idea of the full stories behind these suicides or behind people who might have signed up to the site in the first place. I don't think it should come as a surprise if a lot of the members are deeply unhappy people who have a lot of issues in their personal lives.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Bit unsympathetic, we have no idea of the full stories behind these suicides or behind people who might have signed up to the site in the first place. I don't think it should come as a surprise if a lot of the members are deeply unhappy people who have a lot of issues in their personal lives.

...yeah, also adultery is punishable by death/sentence in some countries like Saudi Arabia, is it not..?..these hackers are really the lowest of the low...

[user104658]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Bit unsympathetic, we have no idea of the full stories behind these suicides or behind people who might have signed up to the site in the first place. I don't think it should come as a surprise if a lot of the members are deeply unhappy people who have a lot of issues in their personal lives.

True, the suicides may be mostly unrelated to the leak, but my point would remain that if people HAVE become suicidal purely because their little perversions have been leaked, then that's a product of society taking these encounters a bit too seriously. Everyone has a little pervert inside them somewhere, amirite? Hakuna matata

[GypsyGoth]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..really the actions of these hackers is deplorable..they have no right to act in judgement of anything, no one has or to release any personal information...

Yea the hackers seem to be a lower caliber of person than the people running the site Ashley Madison. I don't see how the hackers can justify their actions, they don't have the moral high ground, there was no public outcry about the unfairness of this site, they seem to be using worse tactics than the site.

As the article suggests, maybe a former employee was involved. And I'd say they're pretty close to being caught.

Also I'd never even heard of the site before this hacking took place.

[Kizzy]

Pervert.
1.
to affect with perversion.
2.
to lead astray morally.
3.
to turn away from the right course.
4.
to lead into mental error or false judgment.
5.
to turn to an improper use; misapply.
6.
to misconstrue or misinterpret, especially deliberately; distort:
to pervert someone's statement.
7.
to bring to a less excellent state; vitiate; debase.

If you are deliberately misleading your spouse as to your fidelity then I'd say that the term 'pervert' was apt as to your intention...

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Kizzy

Pervert.
1.
to affect with perversion.
2.
to lead astray morally.
3.
to turn away from the right course.
4.
to lead into mental error or false judgment.
5.
to turn to an improper use; misapply.
6.
to misconstrue or misinterpret, especially deliberately; distort:
to pervert someone's statement.
7.
to bring to a less excellent state; vitiate; debase.

If you are deliberately misleading your spouse as to your fidelity then I'd say that the term 'pervert' was apt as to your intention...

That's the definition of the verb though, not the noun.

"A person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable."

I suppose you could argue that a lot of people would find it unacceptable, though certainly not abnormal. But then again I think it's referring to the sexual activity itself there, not the "affair", so... someone having an affair and having sex in the missionary position whilst listening to "Take My Breath Away" would not be a pervert, but someone having an affair, dressing up as a clown, and insisting on popping balloons on a knife held in some's vagina whilst singing the themesong of "Friends" might be considered a pervert.

Might.

[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

That's the definition of the verb though, not the noun.

"A person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable."

I suppose you could argue that a lot of people would find it unacceptable, though certainly not abnormal. But then again I think it's referring to the sexual activity itself there, not the "affair", so... someone having an affair and having sex in the missionary position whilst listening to "Take My Breath Away" would not be a pervert, but someone having an affair, dressing up as a clown, and insisting on popping balloons on a knife held in some's vagina whilst singing the themesong of "Friends" might be considered a pervert.

Might.

That's the context you inferred.. The context in which Ammi used the term 'perverted' that the act of having an affair was perverted... which in the context of the verb, it is.

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

That's the definition of the verb though, not the noun.

"A person whose sexual behaviour is regarded as abnormal and unacceptable."

I suppose you could argue that a lot of people would find it unacceptable, though certainly not abnormal. But then again I think it's referring to the sexual activity itself there, not the "affair", so... someone having an affair and having sex in the missionary position whilst listening to "Take My Breath Away" would not be a pervert, but someone having an affair, dressing up as a clown, and insisting on popping balloons on a knife held in some's vagina whilst singing the themesong of "Friends" might be considered a pervert.

Might.

I think the missionary with 'Take my Breath Away' sounds more perverted to me,That's just cringing