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17-02-2014, 09:01 AM | #26 | |||
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I think it's interesting that everyone in this thread is assuming that this kid will end up being bullied, and never for one second thinks that this kid might BE a bully to other kids....
Isn't that interesting? What does that mean that no one here is worried about this kid becoming a bully, they just assume he will be a victim. and why aren't you more worried about the Bullies, and stopping them, instead of worrying about who will be the victim of bullying?
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17-02-2014, 09:06 AM | #27 | |||
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..yeah I do totally Alex, but his gender is male so I don't see that it's repressing him for him to be dressed as male...that's not enforcing anything aggressive or 'macho' on him...
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17-02-2014, 09:06 AM | #28 | |||
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17-02-2014, 09:09 AM | #29 | |||
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no one complains when a girl wears jeans or boots.
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17-02-2014, 09:11 AM | #30 | |||
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i don't have the time to explain that if you don't understand, you obviously have no cultural awareness of the pressure placed on boys.
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17-02-2014, 09:17 AM | #31 | |||
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17-02-2014, 09:17 AM | #32 | |||
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My view, these parents are actively fostering confusion in this child. It'd be all well and good that if your child showed signs of WANTING to dress in clothes usually worn by the other sex/play with toys that differed from gender stereotypes etc THEN you let them exercise that right. But not actively introduce it and promote it. I find it quite odd.
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17-02-2014, 09:17 AM | #33 | |||
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If a boy is brought up with any of those impressions in his mind it's most likely down to negligible parenting. |
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17-02-2014, 09:18 AM | #34 | ||
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Good parents are good parents, and bad parents are bad parents. I applaud the attitude of the parents, because they are obviously looking at this as a way to teach tolerance and understanding to their infant. However, raising your child as gender neutral will probably have no impact on this, but the love, teaching and boundaries they set up for him will.
They could dress him in nothing but military fatigues up until his teenage years, but teach him the right from wrong, and he'll be equally well rounded. |
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17-02-2014, 09:20 AM | #35 | |||
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I made a long winded post about this earlier but abandoned it because I wasn't a parent so I had no authority on how to bring up a child. |
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17-02-2014, 09:28 AM | #36 | |||
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He surely will be confused,also teased as he gets older,while it may be an 'interesting' experiment we are not the one being used for it,why cant kids just be boys and girls without interference,if they are parented in a good and fair way,they will hopefully grow up to be decent human beings,let them play with whatever toys they want to,but dressing him as a girl is too far imo.
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17-02-2014, 09:29 AM | #37 | |||
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..I do think that Alex makes some good points and I can totally see where he is coming from...but I also think that in trying to encourage a more 'open-minded/tolerant' etc child...they've got it a bit wrong in terms of it being about clothes and are not thinking enough about other areas of his young life and school life that this could have a very serious and unhappy effect on...they're just kind of focusing on it all in the wrong way imo...
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17-02-2014, 09:36 AM | #39 | |||
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It's almost as if these parents seem to think that the only reason boys don't play with girls toys and wear girls clothes is because of a fear of being mocked. I'm sure there are a small minority of boys who would get pleasure out of playing with Barbie or my little pony and wearing a pink tutu but I don't think the vast majority would be interested and that's why I don't think everybody should be subjected to it so early.
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17-02-2014, 09:40 AM | #40 | |||
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17-02-2014, 09:48 AM | #41 | |||
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Believe it or not, i was a child once too.
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17-02-2014, 09:53 AM | #42 | |||
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The only thing that confuses me is that they are actively creating a divide between the sexes. If in the morning he is a boy and plays with boys toys and wears boys clothes and then in the afternoon he is dressed as a girl and plays with girls toys they are highlighting the difference between the sexes. Surely to promote gender neutral behaviour he should be dressed in gender neutral clothes with access to both boys and girls clothes at all times?
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17-02-2014, 09:57 AM | #43 | |||
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17-02-2014, 10:03 AM | #44 | |||
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I think Arista was raised under gender neutral parenting. That's why he's so effeminate.
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17-02-2014, 10:19 AM | #46 | |||
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17-02-2014, 10:45 AM | #47 | |||
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17-02-2014, 10:46 AM | #48 | |||
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17-02-2014, 10:48 AM | #49 | |||
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I can kinda see the point Alex is making...he is saying aggressive gender sterotyping of youngsters into adopting the roles society has established on them can be damaging to them as for the male stereotype this would involve encouragement of negative qualities such as aggression and machoness.
But nature will assert these roles to these children anyway by virtue of the amounts of testosterone and oestrogen they have. We as parents have to be able to allow their gender development within acceptable limits, allow them to dress as their gender dictates but I agree we should not try and encourage the worst excesses of gender behaviour in them. As parents we want the very best for our children male or female and as long as we teach them properly and give them plenty of love they should be well adjusted enough to embrace their gender but not develop the more extreme traits like misogyny and misandry eg....
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17-02-2014, 10:50 AM | #50 | |||
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I was just speaking generally, and making a broader point.
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