[Wizard.]

I feel really lonely a lot of the time and I don't really have any friends and I have my partner who's great but I have no other family and it's really depressing sometimes and my anxiety gets really bad living in a city.

[Denver]

Go to see a doctor sounds like you are suffering depression and need medication

[Wizard.]

Originally Posted by Adam.

Go to see a doctor sounds like you are suffering depression and need medication

Yeah I wish there were magic pills. In one mind I feel independent like I don't need anyone else and everyone who I ever thought were my friends have let me down. My mum gran and sister came up a few weeks ago and I'm going home in a couple of months for a visit. But I also feel like I keep a lot inside and one day I might just drop down dead.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Riley.

I feel really lonely a lot of the time and I don't really have any friends and I have my partner who's great but I have no other family and it's really depressing sometimes and my anxiety gets really bad living in a city.

That sounds so awful, Riley. I've spoken to a lot of people who suffer from depression and anxiety, and it makes life so difficult for those affected. Have you spoken to your partner about this and/or sought help?

[LemonJam]

I would seek help Riley, there's no shame in it and it's probably the best thing I've done for myself.

It's not a magic fix but it's a big step

[Withano]

Depression and anxiety are becoming increasingly common, you're not alone. Many people have either themselves gone through it, or know other people going through similar things, and these people would love to help you recover, you should decide which person/people you want that to be.
Like Adam, I think a GP might be a good first place to go, but unfortunately medications are unlikely to be given to socially anxious people because NICE found too many cases of adverse reactions and depressive side effects with socially anxious adults in 2013. (Are you an adult or adolescent? A few have been giving pregabalin to younger people since 2015). However, in either case, they'd probably suggest a therapist.. and I'd completely recommend this too if youve been feeling this way for long.

Edit: i just assumed it was social anxiety because of your reference to city-living, ignore half of that if you dont think your anxiety is socially-induced. My last sentence about recommending therapy still stands for any type of depression or anxiety though.

PM me any time you want maaaate.

[arista]

Originally Posted by Riley.

I feel really lonely a lot of the time and I don't really have any friends and I have my partner who's great but I have no other family and it's really depressing sometimes and my anxiety gets really bad living in a city.

No Riley
you are not.
It's a Common thing nowdays
So hang onto you Partner
and keep posting on tibb.


Look at Scott now
he has a good laugh


We all have Ups and Downs


So Riley Keep on Keepin' On

[y.winter]

I can only add this: You have a partner, just think how amazing it is and how lucky you are for having this "approval". You have someone to lean on. Talk to your partner, it can only help. Sometimes it takes time to find our peace of mind, it may seem way too long, but I deeply believe that it's doable and it's not impossible. It's OK to have changes if you see that the current state (geographically?) is harming you. Life brings obstacles, they may seem hard, but we can deal with them. Don't you give up

[VanessaFeltz.]

I think seeing a therapist is a good idea. Everyone can need a therapist at certain points in life and thats perfectly normal. Also talking through your problems is a way better solution than taking medications

[Nicky91]

i hope not Riley, i would miss you so much, you are such a good friend to me on here

[Jamie89]

So sorry you're feeling like this Riley, I don't know what to say that hasn't already been said, I'd definitely recommend speaking to someone like a doctor or calling a group like the Samaritans if you want to be anonymous and not speak to someone in person about your feelings, but definitely speak to someone. You're not alone in feeling like this, I reckon there'd have to be something wrong with someone if they didn't feel like this at some point in their lives, it's totally normal.
It might seem like a little thing but there's people on this site who really love you, I know personally you make me laugh so much and you've bonded with others too, so yeah it's "just a BB forum" but you brighten up peoples experience of being here so you're obviously a very special person, situations change so don't let a bad situation affect your view of yourself, and if there's certain things you know you want to change like having more friends for example there's things you can do to work on that. When I moved to London I joined https://www.meetup.com/ which I'd recommend, they hold all sorts of different types of social events and things (and you can create your own events too) and it might take a bit of time but it could be a step towards growing your social life.

[thesheriff443]

You ask the question are you suicidal, well are you?, do you want to harm yourself?, if yes than you are, if not you are having problems like the rest of us.

[Wizard.]

Thank you everyone for your messages, I won't respond to them individually but know I have listened and will take the advice. It means a lot. I guess we all go through periods of ups and downs, life is hard. i was going to delete this thread, but actually, I want people who feel the same to come out and talk about it. So if they see this, they might find it easier.

[Nicky91]

you're welcome Riley

[Lostie!]

I'm sorry to hear this. I suffer from anxiety too, some of the time I'm fine but in certain situations it flares up and holds me back a lot which in turn results in periods of feeling really low and miserable. One of the worst things to do is to start thinking you're the only one and everyone else is living this perfect, ideal life when in reality there's a lot of people who've felt the same things as you so there's always people out there to confide in who'll completely understand how it feels and to help you put things into perspective when you need to.

And as has been said, concentrate on the good in your life like your partner. And it's never too late to get even more fulfillment out of life, it's just that people with things like anxiety and depression struggle to push themselves to do so so it ends up becoming a vicious circle. Make small steps to break it and you might be surprised by how much progress you could find yourself making.

[Amy Jade]

You're brave admitting this and I'm sorry to hear you're feeling down.

I think a lot of people have given you amazing advice already but if you ever neen a chat im here for you doll

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Riley.

Thank you everyone for your messages, I won't respond to them individually but know I have listened and will take the advice. It means a lot. I guess we all go through periods of ups and downs, life is hard. i was going to delete this thread, but actually, I want people who feel the same to come out and talk about it. So if they see this, they might find it easier.

Don't delete it as there is some good advice on here, not much too add, just try and get help with from somewhere to help you

[Vicky.]

You are not suicidal if you haven't been thinking about killing yourself. which luckily it appears from your posts you have not. It sounds like you might be suffering from depression/anxiety though so please see a doctor. And also, try talking to someone about it...as I know from experience that most GPs will just chuck some tablets at you then put you on a waiting list thats ridiculously long. if you can afford to go private, please do. Depression is played down so much but its a very serious condition.

[Deirdre]

I've been suffering too from depression and anxiety for some time now. I've been without a job for about a year, my relationship broke down and I lost a lot of friends. I'm completely alone and it's very hard. I find the days very difficult. I went to counselling last year and it did help some aspects of my life but it didn't cure me. I've cut down a lot on drinking and junk food and started exercising, this helps me and is the only thing I look forward to doing. Depression has rid me of the person I used to be. I don't enjoy anything anymore and I spend my days wondering what's the point in anything.

[Wizard.]

Originally Posted by Deirdre

I've been suffering too from depression and anxiety for some time now. I've been without a job for about a year, my relationship broke down and I lost a lot of friends. I'm completely alone and it's very hard. I find the days very difficult. I went to counselling last year and it did help some aspects of my life but it didn't cure me. I've cut down a lot on drinking and junk food and started exercising, this helps me and is the only thing I look forward to doing. Depression has rid me of the person I used to be. I don't enjoy anything anymore and I spend my days wondering what's the point in anything.

Awh that sounds horrible and definitely something that I can relate. If you need to talk at all the people here are amazing

[Kizzy]

Well done for recognising your anxiety is really impacting on you and expressing it Riley, hope you speak to someone about how you feel, you'll be surprised how much it helps

[UserSince2005]

Hun, BBCan is about to start, that will keep your mind occupied and give you something to look forward too.

[user104658]

As hard as it might sound, you should try to develop a social circle outwith your relationship. As Withano says, depression and chronic anxiety are becoming increasingly common and I personally fully believe that the main reason for this is that human beings are naturally intensely social creatures and, despite things like "social networking", we are becoming more and more isolated in everyday life. What you're feeling doesn't make you broken or abnormal... it is completely normal... we are not supposed to be living like this. Try to find a way to make real, meaningful human connections. It's vital, if not necessarily easy, especially if you've already found yourself on a dark path.