[Josy]

Do you socialise? like actually go out, meet up with friends, go to events, meet for tea/coffee, attend parties, weddings etc?

We socialise quite a lot I would say we go out for drinks with different sets of friends/family every few weeks or at least once a month, we attend most parties like birthdays and weddings etc that we are invited to, we go to gigs, track days and so on.

Admittedly though sometimes we just cant be bothered with people and have cosy nights in by ourselves ignoring our phones and messages

[LeatherTrumpet]

No, and the TL is similar to a degree but has to a little for her teams at work etc

I have never really felt the need to, its nice to see my pals now and again but i can easy go a year without etc

Actually my best pal is in the huff with me at the moment because i never phone him (I only phone me old mum once a day anyroad, i just dont use the phone) I tell him to use text or email as I have not got the time for an hour l;ong call whilst he drives to a meeting etc

[thesheriff443]

As you get older I think your friend list gets shorter, people move in different directions, locations or mind set.

Only have one real friend.

That's not to say I don't go out as a couple with my other half.

[LemonJam]

I used to almost every day but now I'm settling down etc maybe once or twice a week.

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

No, and the TL is similar to a degree but has to a little for her teams at work etc

I have never really felt the need to, its nice to see my pals now and again but i can easy go a year without etc

Actually my best pal is in the huff with me at the moment because i never phone him (I only phone me old mum once a day anyroad, i just dont use the phone) I tell him to use text or email as I have not got the time for an hour l;ong call whilst he drives to a meeting etc

oh, i didn't know they had text and email in the stone-age

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

oh, i didn't know they had text and email in the stone-age

hows your social life Nicky?

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

hows your social life Nicky?

i've been in contact with miss none of your business, and mister privacy

many times i guess

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

i've been in contact with miss none of your business, and mister privacy

many times i guess

yes that figures

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

yes that figures

why ask me, you know i lack social skills due to my autism

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

why ask me, you know i lack social skills due to my autism

you may lack some but not all and your autism, i presume, is on a spectrum so does not preclude you from socialsing?

[Toy Soldier]

Not that much these days, I pretty much burnt out at Uni, night out after house party after night out... it just all got really old . I have a drink and a catch-up with friends every couple of months, and occasionally out for lunch with th'wife and some people when kids are at school.

Getting out as a couple / with others in groups isn't easy for us these days, we would love to do it more, but the youngest's support needs mean that she can't be watched by random babysitters / childminders / friends... it has to be family who she knows... so that means my dad and his girlfriend coming up (1.5 hour drive, and they're also frequently away from home / unavailable) or my sister , who lives on an island... 2 hour drive + a ferry away, so that's pretty much just bigger occasions (birthdays, weddings, etc.) when we "book her in advance", or if she happens to be spending time on the mainland anyway. Wife's family is 4 hours away in England.

So basically... to make a long story short... I don't go out that much these days, would be more, but childcare is an issue.


That said... I also pretty much enjoy my own company so I'm not that bothered . I'm the weirdo who goes to the cinema alone on a weekday . I like it, probably prefer it most of the time . Also I reckon when I was younger people probably wondered why I was at the cinema alone... but these days... I think I look quite blatantly like "dad getting some peace and quiet"

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

you may lack some but not all and your autism, i presume, is on a spectrum so does not preclude you from socialsing?

well i tried socialising yes, but i sometimes can say the wrong things and then i feel so embarrassed


i joined TiBB because i wanted more friends, others to chat with

[parmnion]

Not really now, my partner cant get about so much due to her fibro..its her bthday today as it happens but doesnt want to go out because of it.

I usually go up london on a saturday once a fortnight and just pub crawl the place to death on my own.


Could go out every friday for drinks with work mates but basildons a ****hole, and they wont make the effort to gi across to billiricay.

Go to the occasional west ham game but i find that stadium tedious........

If i was still in scotland i would probably be out every weekend..football first then on the piss.

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

well i tried socialising yes, but i sometimes can say the wrong things and then i feel so embarrassed


i joined TiBB because i wanted more friends, others to chat with

Thats great but your Tibb friends are not real friends per se

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Not really now, my partner cant get about so much due to her fibro..its her bthday today as it happens but doesnt want to go out because of it.

I usually go up london on a saturday once a fortnight and just pub crawl the place to death on my own.


Could go out every friday for drinks with work mates but basildons a ****hole, and they wont make the effort to gi across to billiricay.

Go to the occasional west ham game but i find that stadium tedious........

If i was still in scotland i would probably be out every weekend..football first then on the piss.

there is nowt wrong with Basildon

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

there is nowt wrong with Basildon

Calm down brian.

[smudgie]

Not really.
I see friends every week, and neighbours pop in for coffee, but my outside of the house social life is quite limited. We try and get over to the coast or into the Dales/Moors most weeks, can't beat the fresh air and magnificent scenery.
My social whirl today consists of the blood clinic and the solicitors...oh yeah, this girl knows how to enjoy herself

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by parmnion

Calm down brian.

I used to love a night out at the Barge and the Powerhouse

[MTVN]

Probably 4 or 5 days a week I'll socialise but its mainly pretty low-level stuff like going for a couple of pints or playing a round of golf rather than big events or a proper night out

[Niamh.]

I meet up with my 3 best friends every couple of months for a proper night out, in between I might meet them individually for lunch or breakfast once or twice. Myself and Gav have gotten pretty lazy, in general we'd rather spend a Fri/Sat night by the fire in our PJs with a glass of wine If we are doing anything it's usually a weekend or night away at a hotel and we'd usually go out then for dinner and to the pub. Oh we go to the cinema alot actually both with and without the kids and we'd go to "events" like friends birthday parties and that kind of thing but they don't come around too often

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

I used to love a night out at the Barge and the Powerhouse

Is the barge not in flange?

Never heard of the powerhouse.

[parmnion]

Oh just googled the powerhouse...funny link...the chair im sitting in right now..my smoking chair....was bought from a lady directly opposite it...true story..in a housing area on its own isnt it.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I meet up with my 3 best friends every couple of months for a proper night out, in between I might meet them individually for lunch or breakfast once or twice. Myself and Gav have gotten pretty lazy, in general we'd rather spend a Fri/Sat night by the fire in our PJs with a glass of wine If we are doing anything it's usually a weekend or night away at a hotel and we'd usually go out then for dinner and to the pub. Oh we go to the cinema alot actually both with and without the kids and we'd go to "events" like friends birthday parties and that kind of thing but they don't come around too often

This is me I am very lazy about having people round..and hate hosting parties, all that effort ...

[Eddie.]

I go out a lot, matter of fact, I'm gonna go out for lunch with my mates later...