[Denver]

I think the main reason for the way the youth of britain today are is because the parents have had all punishment rights taken away from the and are not even allowed to give the child a slap or something similar if they misbehave.

I see problem in slapping a child as long as its not hard enough to leave marks or really hurt them

[Niamh.]

I don't agree with slapping kids no, that doesn't mean I don't think you should discipline your children but there are better, more effect ways to do that. I mean if it's wrong to hit another adult how can anyone justify hitting a much smaller person?

[Wizard.]

Yeah punishments should include:

-Naughty step
-Go to your room
-No TV time

But honestly it's not just about punishing, but about discipline, two different things. Discipline is better because it usually mean children are better behaved and won't need punishing as much. Discipline includes:

-You will eat your vegetables
-You will go to bed every night at the same time
-You will do your homework before anything else

[LeatherTrumpet]

nowt wrong with a good skelped arse when they are young

once or twice is all you need and they wont do it again

[parmnion]

No..i remember going to bed sobbing with masdive welt marks in the shape of my dads hands on my legs....half the time i hadnt a clue what it was for...it made me resentfull and disrespectful to authority as i entered adult life...almost went to jail and i blame it all on the handiness of my dad.....


So no, its unneccasery and barbaric..

[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by parmnion

No..i remember going to bed sobbing with masdive welt marks in the shape of my dads hands on my legs....half the time i hadnt a clue what it was for...it made me resentfull and disrespectful to authority as i entered adult life...almost went to jail and i blame it all on the handiness of my dad.....


So no, its unneccasery and barbaric..

aw Parmy sorry to hear that

[Alf]

When I first started school, I remember watching the naughty boys layed over the headmasters knee, getting ten of the best accros the bottom.

Great days.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Alf

When I first started school, I remember watching the naughty boys layed over the headmasters knee, getting ten of the best accros the bottom.

Great days.

Sounds a bit perverted tbh

[Morgan.]

Originally Posted by Riley.

Yeah punishments should include:

-Naughty step
-Go to your room
-No TV time

But honestly it's not just about punishing, but about discipline, two different things. Discipline is better because it usually mean children are better behaved and won't need punishing as much. Discipline includes:

-You will eat your vegetables
-You will go to bed every night at the same time
-You will do your homework before anything else

I used to love getting sent to my room though because it's where all the good things are that kids enjoy doing; playing, watching tv (if they have one) etc

If anything a better punishment is being locked out of your room imo

[Eddie.]

Growing up in an Asian family unlike most/if not all of you, the beatings have made myself who I am today, so I agree that slapping is an appropriate punishment.

Though don't overuse it...

[Morgan.]

Originally Posted by Eddie.

Growing up in an Asian family unlike most/if not all of you, the beatings have made myself who I am today, so I agree that slapping is an appropriate punishment.

Though don't overuse it...

I honestly can't think what a child could do to deserve being hit. I personally think there's more effective ways to discipline and punish.

[Alf]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sounds a bit perverted tbh

I read of far more perverted things happening in schools today.

[Shaun]

I know it's pretty unpopular a sentiment and I can see why, but I generally don't think smacking your child is that bad... it's unpleasant, sure, and it can be overused and quickly turn into abuse, but I think in cases of extreme bad behaviour it can be justified, and for all my faults with my upbringing, my mum slapping my ass every once in a while asn't one of them

I just think people are too weak-willed generally to set up these complicated af Supernanny hierarchical structures where you have different timed punishments, and sitting on a stair... I just don't think it does anything that "punishing" to a child. And how easy is it to cave and give back a kid's Xbox or phone because they won't stop throwing tantrums about it being taken off of them?

All this said, I would never be comfortable with it taking place in schools.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Blurryface

I honestly can't think what a child could do to deserve being hit. I personally think there's more effective ways to discipline and punish.

Of course there is, being violent towards a child is just ridiculous and I have no idea how people justify it. Sorry but it's real lazy parenting

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Alf

I read of far more perverted things happening in schools today.

Still though if some adult put a hand on my childs ass they'd be sorry.

Alf, aren't we the same age? I can't believe teachers still did that when you were in school, I never saw anything like that when I was

[Ashley.]

I was never hit as a child, but my parents were as strict as anything. They just found other ways of teaching me a lesson. Niamh said it perfectly - it's lazy parenting. If you can't raise a child correctly without resorting to physical violence then that child shouldn't be yours to raise.

[Eddie.]

It really all comes down to your family background on whether or not you consider beatings as an appropriate way to punish a child...

I guess.

[smudgie]

Distraction is a good way of sorting tantrums.
A little tap on the hand if they stick their fingers where they shouldn't, after already being warned.
sometimes kids are naughty just to test you, ignoring them sometimes works.
Keeping them occupied and lots of exercise helps as well.
Nothing against discipline, as long as it's not done in temper or too harsh.

[bitontheslide]

A kid should only ever need a smack once, after that it's no longer necessary

[Eddie.]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

A kid should only ever need a smack once, after that it's no longer necessary

This proves my point.

[Nicky91]

i got stomped on my head whenever i did throw a tantrum, and that made me cry a lot


not just slapped but a stomp from my mom or dad's fist, so now i know that i should behave, and count to 10 whenever i am tempted to throw a tantrum once again

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Sounds a bit perverted tbh

Yeah... My parents grew up when the belt / cane was still around and both have said that as you got older and started to "notice" and understand these things... It became really clear that some of the teachers genuinely got off on the whole thing. Very disturbing.

Anyway, on the general thread topic, no to physical punishment. It's unnecessary, ineffective and straight up lazy. When the punishment fits the crime it works much better, e.g. You and a friend trash the bedroom, you ain't doing anything else until it's back the way it was.

Tech bans are also pretty effective around here.

We also once made her go to a neighbour's door and apologise for her and her friend shouting "rude stuff" out of her bedroom window at her... She was mortified, it was brilliant. She bawled for half an hour solid about it before composing herself enough to actually do it. Hasn't so much as whispered out the window since .

Also I think I've mentioned before, my wife sits her down for "long talks". Looong talks. About morality and the sort of person she wants to be when she grows up. She HATES them . She gets so bored that her eyes practically gaze over. I think she'd rather be smacked. It works as a threat too; "Ahem, do we need to have a long chat about this?" - - "NO! Please no not that, I'll stop right now I promise!"

[Alf]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Still though if some adult put a hand on my childs ass they'd be sorry.

Alf, aren't we the same age? I can't believe teachers still did that when you were in school, I never saw anything like that when I was

It all changed whilst I was in primary school. The incident I'm talking about happened when I first started school, so that would have been about 1982 or 83. I think coperal punishment was abolished round about 1988 time.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Eddie.

Growing up in an Asian family unlike most/if not all of you, the beatings have made myself who I am today, so I agree that slapping is an appropriate punishment.

Though don't overuse it...

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

A kid should only ever need a smack once, after that it's no longer necessary

Originally Posted by Eddie.

This proves my point.

It actually contradicts your point.

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Nicky91

i got stomped on my head whenever i did throw a tantrum, and that made me cry a lot


not just slapped but a stomp from my mom or dad's fist, so now i know that i should behave, and count to 10 whenever i am tempted to throw a tantrum once again

Nicky if this is true then its really horrendous .