[Redway]

And by that I mean if you’re as courteous (or appropriately-ratchet) with people online in the same way that you are in person and if you’d have the back of, ‘say,’ a casual forum buddy or likeable Facebook poster in the same way you would a casual vis-à-vis buddy.

[Mystic Mock]

I'll always try to have my friends back, whether it be online or irl.

However if it's proven that they've done something really heinous then they've lost me as a friend.

[Gusto Brunt]

I'm loyal online but often if my loyalties and contributions aren't reciprocated or appreciated, I tend to ditch people who I think take my presence for granted.��

[Josy]

I'm just the same

Infact one of my nephews has been posting aimed statuses (not at me) and no one ever pulls him up on it and it's getting repetitive and embarassing so I called him out on yesterday and the cheeky little bam deleted my comment

[Redway]

I’m loyal to the people I’m loyal to (loyal as in actively looking out for them) but otherwise I’m just someone who posts and I am a bit petty when it comes to stuff like people randomly unfollowing me on Instagram (especially if they still try and view your stories to get access to your daily/weekly tidbits). I obviously unfollow right-back unless their stories are that interesting to me and I do hide stories from people who do the parenthesised bits. Either buckle-up and sign up for the full deal if you were already willing to do that at one point or let’s just not acknowledge each other’s virtual presence. At all.

[LeatherTrumpet]

appropriately-ratchet

what does that mean?

[Redway]

In other words the more ghetto/unpolished form of courteous (meaning ‘hey, you alright, there?’ would become ‘wag-wan; how’s it sliding, gyal/brudda? Stay blessed, yh?’).

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Josy

I'm just the same

Infact one of my nephews has been posting aimed statuses (not at me) and no one ever pulls him up on it and it's getting repetitive and embarassing so I called him out on yesterday and the cheeky little bam deleted my comment

Teenagers do say all sorts of embarrassing things on social media, to be fair. That’s why I don’t think prospective employees should use stuff like that as a yardstick for vocational suitability unless the stuff they’re posting really is that defamatory and it’s definitely them posting it.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Josy

I'm just the same

Infact one of my nephews has been posting aimed statuses (not at me) and no one ever pulls him up on it and it's getting repetitive and embarassing so I called him out on yesterday and the cheeky little bam deleted my comment

what are aimed statuses?

[bitontheslide]

i don't interact on social media outside of a work context

[LeatherTrumpet]

i used to laugh at my dads "phone voice"

[MTVN]

I barely understand anything in this thread

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by MTVN

I barely understand anything in this thread

The title is wholly misleading


I think its do you change your personality depending on what social media you use?

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Cherie

what are aimed statuses?

I'm guessing those kind of ones that are clearly about a particular person without actually naming them so kind of like :

"Sick of doing favours for ungrateful people who are always too busy when you need help"

[LeatherTrumpet]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm guessing those kind of ones that are clearly about a particular person without actually naming them so kind of like :

"Sick of doing favours for ungrateful people who are always too busy when you need help"

typical Josy

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by LeatherTrumpet

typical Josy

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm guessing those kind of ones that are clearly about a particular person without actually naming them so kind of like :

"Sick of doing favours for ungrateful people who are always too busy when you need help"

Slightly off-topic but that’s an actual bug-bearer of me. I always try and be accessible in some form to give help to whoever needs it (not necessarily financially all the time but just in general) but some people will literally come to you about something when they need help and then disappear. You can’t even get them to respond to a single message that isn’t directly-related to whatever it is they need help with.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

I'll always try to have my friends back, whether it be online or irl.

However if it's proven that they've done something really heinous then they've lost me as a friend.

Yeah, I hear you. Sometimes it’s easier to befriend someone online after so long if it had been in your head up until then that they were some sort of weirdo based on fleeting interactions they were put in where they didn’t really feel that comfortable in in the first place (coupled with the fact that people like that are some of the types who express themselves much more openly online than in-the-flesh). Some people still live in the dark ages about them even when it’s obvious that they’ve become cool (even assuming that they were ever anything but cool) and choose not to accept their F.b. requests/follow them on Insta. but ultimately that’s their loss. The internet’s a good place to connect with people from all walks of life and that includes people you vaguely-knew from back in the day who you might’ve thought were a bit weird (not necessarily heinous by any means) for whatever biased, strange reason. When ostracism of ‘person X’ (or at the least people just ignoring them because they don’t remember them seeming interesting to them in person) becomes old news and so-2007 (or whatever), it’s old news. I’m the last person to let face-to-face misunderstandings and mistreatments carry over online years and years and years later. People evolve.

[Josy]

Originally Posted by Cherie

what are aimed statuses?

Like posting insults and comments on fb clearly directed at someone but not naming the person

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Josy

I'm just the same

Infact one of my nephews has been posting aimed statuses (not at me) and no one ever pulls him up on it and it's getting repetitive and embarassing so I called him out on yesterday and the cheeky little bam deleted my comment

You hit the hurt spot.

[parmnion]

Originally Posted by Redway

Yeah, I hear you. Sometimes it’s easier to befriend someone online after so long if it had been in your head up until then that they were some sort of weirdo based on fleeting interactions they were put in where they didn’t really feel that comfortable in in the first place (coupled with the fact that people like that are some of the types who express themselves much more openly online than in-the-flesh). Some people still live in the dark ages about them even when it’s obvious that they’ve become cool (even assuming that they were ever anything but cool) and choose not to accept their F.b. requests/follow them on Insta. but ultimately that’s their loss. The internet’s a good place to connect with people from all walks of life and that includes people you vaguely-knew from back in the day who you might’ve thought were a bit weird (not necessarily heinous by any means) for whatever biased, strange reason. When ostracism of ‘person X’ (or at the least people just ignoring them because they don’t remember them seeming interesting to them in person) becomes old news and so-2007 (or whatever), it’s old news. I’m the last person to let face-to-face misunderstandings and mistreatments carry over online years and years and years later. People evolve.

What a load of horse****. Youve dug LT out for no reason thaelast 2 weeks...so I would therefore pop you up at the 1st person...certainly not the past

[Mystic Mock]

Originally Posted by Redway

Yeah, I hear you. Sometimes it’s easier to befriend someone online after so long if it had been in your head up until then that they were some sort of weirdo based on fleeting interactions they were put in where they didn’t really feel that comfortable in in the first place (coupled with the fact that people like that are some of the types who express themselves much more openly online than in-the-flesh). Some people still live in the dark ages about them even when it’s obvious that they’ve become cool (even assuming that they were ever anything but cool) and choose not to accept their F.b. requests/follow them on Insta. but ultimately that’s their loss. The internet’s a good place to connect with people from all walks of life and that includes people you vaguely-knew from back in the day who you might’ve thought were a bit weird (not necessarily heinous by any means) for whatever biased, strange reason. When ostracism of ‘person X’ (or at the least people just ignoring them because they don’t remember them seeming interesting to them in person) becomes old news and so-2007 (or whatever), it’s old news. I’m the last person to let face-to-face misunderstandings and mistreatments carry over online years and years and years later. People evolve.

You make some good points.

In particular about being friends with people online that you wouldn't even look at twice irl, it can be fascinating who is really close with who when you take all of the smoke and mirrors away.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by parmnion

What a load of horse****. Youve dug LT out for no reason thaelast 2 weeks...so I would therefore pop you up at the 1st person...certainly not the past

I’ve never met L.T. in the flesh though (and he hasn’t actually caused any grief in the past couple of days, surprisingly to the contrary). I think the context is just.a wee-bit different.

[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

You make some good points.

In particular about being friends with people online that you wouldn't even look at twice irl, it can be fascinating who is really close with who when you take all of the smoke and mirrors away.

Mhm-hm. But the thing is so many people (especially the more socially-introverted/reserved) show far more of their true selves online/in writing in general than in spoken conversation in-the-flesh so sometimes being close to someone online means that you really are authentically-close to them. For a number of reasons (some of which are actually perfectly-healthy, if a little bit of a nuisance when it comes to concrete self-assertion and things like that) some people just don’t show much of their true colours to anyone in-person (and if they do the other person has to be extremely, extremely close to them for that assertive comfort to even begin to materialise in the flesh) so rely on the Internet to get their social feed and connections. I don’t think anything’s wrong with it, tbh.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I'm guessing those kind of ones that are clearly about a particular person without actually naming them so kind of like :

"Sick of doing favours for ungrateful people who are always too busy when you need help"

Originally Posted by Josy

Like posting insults and comments on fb clearly directed at someone but not naming the person

Originally Posted by parmnion

What a load of horse****. Youve dug LT out for no reason thaelast 2 weeks...so I would therefore pop you up at the 1st person...certainly not the past

Aw right got you