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Be interested to know what advice or what youd do in this scenario

both siblings are limiting or stopping access of their grand kids to my mother..

sibling 1 wont bring the kids and wont invite her to their house, so she hasn't seen those grand kids for 2 years

sibling 2 rarely brings the grand kids and wont invite her to their house

Im piggy in the middle trying to make the peace and to try and broker some compromise with little success

my mother is gutted about the situation , she tends to get on with children better than adults

why wont they let their kids see her you may ask?

well sibling 1 hasn't got on well with her over the years, both tend to be sarcastic towards each other, no screaming matches, they just rub each other wrong and grew apart years ago. but it seems to stop her seeing her grand kids totally is harsh

sibling 2 is also sarcastic and critical but cant take any criticism back. so they rub each other up and it always fails

in addition to this my dad died 18 months ago so my mother is alone. which is one reason id thought my siblings would show her some empathy. instead they've gone the opposite way and taken away her contact with grand kids. this seems particularly cruel to me. no doubt they'd say its her fault.

her other faults she does tend to be a bit of a spendthrift, though its all spent on the home , she doesn't go out partying or drinking etc

so what do I do? keep out of it? its causing a rift between me and siblings as I cant come to terms with the ruthlessness of their position and I too see my nieces and nephews less as a result of this