[the truth]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I really do feel for her and for you as well but I honestly don't know how this can be solved easily without trying to mend bridges with your siblings first but it would take for everyone to want and make that happen and if they won't then she may have to accept that, as hard as it is...maybe in the meantime, when she sends them gifts..?...and they send her cards etc..?..they could write to each other, she could tell them a bit about her life, let them get to know her/who she is and maybe they would write to her about things they've done and things they're looking forward to..?..

yes that's a good idea....whether the parents intercept the letters is more than likely....sibling 1 didn't even attend my mothers house on the day of my dads funeral....but he made it to a wedding party the following day.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by the truth

yes that's a good idea....whether the parents intercept the letters is more than likely....sibling 1 didn't even attend my mothers house on the day of my dads funeral....but he made it to a wedding party the following day.

..there are obviously feelings there that sadly may not be easy to resolve or may never be resolved...families are complicated and feelings run deep as you know but it's wrong for them to involve their children and deny them the chance to get to know their grandmother and for her to spend time with them..but if it were possible for your to keep contact through letters and they with her then there will come a time though that, that the children will make their own decisions...I know that isn't really the solution that either of you are looking for but it may be all there is at the moment...there could be an option of going through courts/I'm not sure but that would be a long and difficult thing and only deteriorate the relationships even further with bad feelings and those bad feelings would probably be transferred to and influence the children against your mum and maybe make any possible future relationship with her and her grandchildren unlikely..... I honestly feel your pain and hers....children should never be involved in things like this but sadly they so often are...their parents are taking their grandmother away from them and hurting them as much as they're hurting her...

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by the truth

yes that's a good idea....whether the parents intercept the letters is more than likely....sibling 1 didn't even attend my mothers house on the day of my dads funeral....but he made it to a wedding party the following day.

That makes it sound like something deep has happened in the past that goes beyond the usual family fall outs, It seems all you can do is concentrate on your own relationship with your Mum and make it as positive as it can be and leave them to it. Maybe encourage your Mum to pursue some interests that bring her out of the house to take the edge off her loneliness, as she can't depend on her children/grandchildren for this. If she gets on well with kids she could volunteer to help out at her local primary school maybe? Schools are always happy to have help with reading etc