[Kerry]

.... if your family didn't approve of your chosen partner?

Prompted by a documentory I was just watching - would you?

[Josy]

Yes, I wouldnt care who approved or not.

[Stacey.]

Originally Posted by ~HO~HO~HO~

Yes, I wouldnt care who approved or not.

This

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by ~Kerry~

.... if your family didn't approve of your chosen partner?

Prompted by a documentory I was just watching - would you?

Yes,but it would take the shine off it if my family didn't approve.

[Captain.Remy]

They already didn't approve my ex-girlfriend which I stayed with for 2 years and a half, so I guess I'm kind of used to it now. They gave me and her a bad time and her family was terrible at the beginning but they also got used to it. They have to accept it and DO NOT ADD OIL ON THE FIRE, it will get worse.

[Niamh.]

em, I don't know tbh, the reason being my family are actually very accepting people and If they didn't accept my partner then I would have to seriously consider why not, as I trust their opinions and know that if they did have a concern about my partner it would be because they are looking out for me.

[Princess]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

em, I don't know tbh, the reason being my family are actually very accepting people and If they didn't accept my partner then I would have to seriously consider why not, as I trust their opinions and know that if they did have a concern about my partner it would be because they are looking out for me.

Same as this. I can't see my parents ever disapproving cos I wouldn't want to imagine I'd end up with someone that was so disapprovable.

[InOne]

Guess it depends. wouldn't want to be one of those idiots that goes 'omgz I'm in love fuck you all <3'. Depends what they knew about her and all that.

[Angus]

I went ahead and married against the wishes of my family and friends, and unfortunately, they were right about him and I was wrong as I ended up in an unhappy marriage for ten years. They say love is blind and it certainly was in my case.

[Jack_]

Yes...it has **** all to with them, as far as I'm concerned.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by JackFrost

Yes...it has **** all to with them, as far as I'm concerned.

I used to think like that but my family hated my ex and I ignored their concerns and stayed with him (luckily didn't get married) turns out they were right all along about him. That's what would make me think differently now, they only wanted what was best for me, I think unless your family are horrible people they wouldn't not accept your partner unless they really were concerned about you

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

I used to think like that but my family hated my ex and I ignored their concerns and stayed with him (luckily didn't get married) turns out they were right all along about him. That's what would make me think differently now, they only wanted what was best for me, I think unless your family are horrible people they wouldn't not accept your partner unless they really were concerned about you

It's not that though, it's just that I don't really think it's any of their business. I wouldn't tell my parents who they can/can't marry, or whether they can have a partner or not, and I wouldn't expect them to listen either...it's none of my business. And so I'd expect [and want] the same thing when it comes to me and my private life. It's just something that I've always thought is none of their business, and is none of my business.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by JackFrost

It's not that though, it's just that I don't really think it's any of their business. I wouldn't tell my parents who they can/can't marry, or whether they can have a partner or not, and I wouldn't expect them to listen either...it's none of my business. And so I'd expect [and want] the same thing when it comes to me and my private life. It's just something that I've always thought is none of their business, and is none of my business.

well that's fair enough, I suppose it depends on the type of relationship you have with your family really, but If I thought someone I cared about was with someone who was really bad for them in some way then I would have to say something and my family do the same back.

[fruit_cake]

^ you must have a good family, I'd never let my family choose anyone for me, they've always been wrong about everything in my life.. I used to listen to them far too often which you do as a child I suppose?

These days if I ever wonder about anything, I ask them and then do the opposite of what they tell me believe it or not.

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

well that's fair enough, I suppose it depends on the type of relationship you have with your family really, but If I thought someone I cared about was with someone who was really bad for them in some way then I would have to say something and my family do the same back.

I care about my family a lot and they care about me, but that sort of stuff I just don't agree with. Don't think they feel the same way though obviously.

[Niall]

Yep.

Its my life and I'll do as I please.

[InOne]

Anyone can wear a mask for the family. It's when you're alone that matters

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Scrooge

Anyone can wear a mask for the family. It's when you're alone that matters

people can wear masks but they're usually very see-through-able(?) and the person comes across as fake (my ex for example)

[InOne]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

people can wear masks but they're usually very see-through-able(?) and the person comes across as fake (my ex for example)

Well some of the time, not always. People can keep it up for years, usually happens gradually, and when you've realised what's happened it's too late. Usually will be attached by kids, money or love or something.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Scrooge

Well some of the time, not always. People can keep it up for years, usually happens gradually, and when you've realised what's happened it's too late. Usually will be attached by kids, money or love or something.

well, yeah I mean I stayed with him for 2 and half years I meant my family saw through him but I ignored their concerns, it taught me a lesson!

[InOne]

Originally Posted by NingleBells

well, yeah I mean I stayed with him for 2 and half years I meant my family saw through him but I ignored their concerns, it taught me a lesson!

Good Can't be having our Ningle getting hurt

[_Seth]

Yeah, ignoring the fact that marriage would mean nothing to me.

[Livia]

Every time my family have disliked someone, he's turned out to be a t*sser. Can't argue with a track record like that.

[MTVN]

My friends would have more influence over my relationships then my family would tbh

[GypsyGoth]

It wouldn't bother me if my sis didn't like my partner, but I think it would if my mom didn't like them. And I'm not sure about the whole marriage thing.