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Originally Posted by Livia

I went to a fancy dress party where someone was dressed up as a member of the SS. I was not insulted. It was a party. He wasn't there to gas Jews, he was there for a party.

As a matter of interest though, I'm sure there would be some Jewish people who WOULD have a problem with a Nazi costume and what would be your opinion / reacting to a fellow Jew (and the situation) in your company if they were uncomfortable with it?

Surely there's an element of moderating oneself based on the present company, if their feelings on it are known, anyway. For example, one of my best friends is a gay man and he finds "gay jokes" hilarious... like side-splittingly funny... to more controversial the better. He's just a fan of controversial humour... he has the best nervous laugh... he's terrified of people telling him that they've had a family member die because he has an uncontrollable urge to laugh at inappropriate times . So a lot of what most people would consider unacceptable "gay jokes" fly around if he's out with old friends. However, his partner is not-so-comfortable with it so when they're both there, it obviously gets reigned right in.

I also wonder if it's maybe down to past experiences? As my friend had a relatively easy / accepting "coming out" and as far as I know never really experienced anything in the way of verbal attacks or abuse "for real". If he had maybe it would "taint" any light-hearted controversial joking on the subject?