[Zippy]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Well, going by my own experiences and people I actually know, the reasons men and women usually stay in those situations is because of kids not because they like to be dominated or are weak people

well the kids often suffer too in abusive relationships so I don't get that logic.

My childhood memories are of constantly being gathered together with my sisters by my mum so we could run off to my aunts or mums friend. Yeah I grew up with an extremely violent and abusive stepfather. Then a few days later she'd go back to him and he'd be all nice to her. I quickly realised that she was as addicted to the situation as he was. Its like she enjoyed the part where he would beg her to come back. Eventually it took her nearly ten years to finally break away and it was a painfully slow and gradual process. Even when they moved to different cities they would still have to see each other regularly. So yeah, I have seen all this up close. He was as controlling as you can imagine.

Thankfully my sisters have benefitted from seeing this because they wouldnt put up with a controlling man for 2 minutes.

And you should also remember that some people doing actual enjoy being submissive and controlled. There are websites...