[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I think the idea of Asexuaity is interesting. I personally don't like labels on sexuality, i think sexuality is very fluid.

Homosexuality means you prefer sex with men, but i certainly don't want to have sex with all men or even most men, i'd say less than 1% of men i'd actually want to have sex with, so am i really homosexual? same for heterosexuals, or bisexuals, also there are all the "fetishes" feet, or bondage, or armpits, or furry. rough and violent, or soft and loving. There are so many variations and you're preference can change from day to day.

I've definitely been through periods of my life where the absolute last thing i'd ever want to do is have sex. Did that make me "asexual" during those times?

I think sexuality is very misunderstood, and in trying to understand it we try to create labels and groups and segregations. I don't think that's a particularly helpful or intelligent approach.

If you have sex drive and a desire for sex you are not asexual.
If you want to have sex with males only, and you are male, you are homosexual.
Different things can turn you on or off, and a healthy adult labido fluctuates at times, it does not make you asexual.
Labels can help sometimes, for instance if a young man questions why he sometimes masturbates, feels attracted but not sexually aroused by women and wants affection but not penetrative sex he can say im asexual. The thought that he is crazy or strange is then removed, its not so much labelling but understanding there are more diverse people sexually.