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it gives insight into the environment Bear comes from, but its irrelevant to bear on BB

[user104658]

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

it gives insight into the environment Bear comes from, but its irrelevant to bear on BB

Indeed. Anyone who would judge Bear for this, I can only imagine, is lucky enough to come from a family that doesn't have a "flawed parent"... and doesn't actually realize how lucky they are.

[power2thepeople]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Indeed. Anyone who would judge Bear for this, I can only imagine, is lucky enough to come from a family that doesn't have a "flawed parent"... and doesn't actually realize how lucky they are.

Absolutely agree. Wholeheartedly. I wasn't a Bear fan but this is something to be reflected on in regards to environment and free of any CBB conduct. It's but a moment, so I cannot say it's dad's true character. He may have had far too many sherberts, though I'm not condoning his aggression. But her appearance in the house reminded of my mother. She seemed to be very fragile and it seemed deeply set. Not just a possible reflection on Bear before anyone says so. I'm no Bear fan but she looked so timid and insecure. I won't go into detail re my childhood but it wasn't pleasant to have a flawed parent. I don't behave like Bear because of it but I teach pupils who do because of flawed parents. It can affect people different ways. His mention of mum seems an Achilles heel to him. I do wonder why now. Just my perspective.

[Garfie]

Originally Posted by power2thepeople

Absolutely agree. Wholeheartedly. I wasn't a Bear fan but this is something to be reflected on in regards to environment and free of any CBB conduct. It's but a moment, so I cannot say it's dad's true character. He may have had far too many sherberts, though I'm not condoning his aggression. But her appearance in the house reminded of my mother. She seemed to be very fragile and it seemed deeply set. Not just a possible reflection on Bear before anyone says so. I'm no Bear fan but she looked so timid and insecure. I won't go into detail re my childhood but it wasn't pleasant to have a flawed parent. I don't behave like Bear because of it but I teach pupils who do because of flawed parents. It can affect people different ways. His mention of mum seems an Achilles heel to him. I do wonder why now. Just my perspective.

This is a really interesting and sensitive post, power2thepeople, and you are so right when you say it can affect people in different ways, and they can also react in many different ways due to flawed parenting.

Some hit out at the world, some turn it in on themselves and some, like yourself, will use it to ensure they create a better future for themselves and to try to help others avoid the first two by showing them there is a way out, a better way forward. The latter is the most challenging but most productive response which takes real strength of character.

Depending on their basic character and the power of the influences on them, those you help will make their own choices of how to move forward. Some of them will choose to use you as a role model and an inspiration, and succeed in life despite of their environment. Sadly, some will battle against it but the influences will be too much and they will be defeated by the challenge. And then some will always throw two fingers up at any help or support they are offered, and choose to repeat patterns.

Human beings are so interesting and complex.