[Nicky91]

Originally Posted by Isaiah 7:14

harsh on marsh

she didn't mention anyone hun

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Merry Molliemas

she didn't mention anyone hun

she?

Smithy isnt a girl

[smudgie]

I would keep quiet and put it down to a drunken snog, but I would watch them for a few weeks to see if anything else happens then have a word in his ear and probably have a word with the female colleague as well.
Depends totally on the circumstances, the people involved and the possible consequences.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

I heard this on a radio show earlier and it's a tough one, what would you do?

So you work with couple who met in the job, are married and have a kid together. You get on well with them both. It's the work Christmas party and they can't get a baby sitter so the husband goes to the party and the wife stays home with the kid. At the Christmas party you see the husband in the corner kissing some girl. What do you do? Tell the wife? Say something to the husband? or pretend you saw nothing? Or something else?

*for arguments sake, we'll say you know them pretty well and are very friendly with them both (but not best buddies like your out of work friends)

I would do nothing but wait for my shot.

[Beso]

Edit...next year when its her turn.

[Niamh.]

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wife

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

Yes, the couple in the OP are work colleagues, if the couple were friends I would have a word with him

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Isaiah 7:14

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wife

Yet the same two blokes would act all indignant were the wives to do the same to them.

Always makes me laugh when you get those kind of blokes who are like "it's just sex. Doesn't mean anything, why do women get all angry about it!" yet they're always the ones who would commit murder were they to discover their missus banging somebody behind their back.

20 years ago my dad was one "It's only skin! Who gives a sh*t! Doesn't mean anything!" yet the first false suspicion that my mum was playing away and he'd literally have the knives out.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Isaiah 7:14

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wife

Obviously I meant a close friend of the cheated on person

[caprimint]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

I'd probably talk to them about it, but still wouldn't actually do anything

[Vicky.]

None of my business.

Only way I would say something is if she was one of my best mates.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Isaiah 7:14

of course not, you would not dob your mate in with his wife

Jamesie Cotter would.

[smudgie]

Originally Posted by ChristmasNeeve

For those of you saying you would say nothing, would that change if it were a close friend?

My best friend of over 35 years has just been to bring Xmas card and have a good old natter.
Many years ago she split with her husband because he had an affair, they got back together and were trying to make a go of it.
I found out the night before we left our old house that my sil had slept with best friends hubby some 10 or 11 years prior..I seriously had to think long and hard about telling her.
I decided not to as they were making big efforts to work it out, they did actually eventually divorce but I still refrained from telling her, I can't see the point of hurting her and turning the knife after all these years.

[Crimson Dynamo]

Originally Posted by Mariah_Carey

Yet the same two blokes would act all indignant were the wives to do the same to them.

Always makes me laugh when you get those kind of blokes who are like "it's just sex. Doesn't mean anything, why do women get all angry about it!" yet they're always the ones who would commit murder were they to discover their missus banging somebody behind their back.

20 years ago my dad was one "It's only skin! Who gives a sh*t! Doesn't mean anything!" yet the first false suspicion that my mum was playing away and he'd literally have the knives out.

Marsh we get the whole dad hating thing , it's not about you

[Amy Jade]

Probably forget I saw it unless I was close to the person being cheated on

[bots]

i never get involved in others relationships as there is a very good chance the bringer of news will get blamed for the whole mess by both sides

[Natalie.]

I probably would say something yeah

[AnnieK]

Its a really difficult one. On one hand I wouldn't want to rock the boat, on the other im fiercely protective of my friends and if he had been kissing someone in plain sight so everyone would know apart from my friend sat at home babysitting so he could have a good time I would have to think hard about what to do. Would prefer she heard it from a friend than the office gossip.

[thesheriff443]

Well clearly me and Lt think the same on this subject, I would be to busy in the bosses office giving my misses a hard time on the bosses desk to care who was kiss who.

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Isaiah 7:14

Marsh we get the whole dad hating thing , it's not about you

Who said it was?

Do you not like being called out for the hypocrite you are?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Well clearly me and Lt think the same on this subject, I would be to busy in the bosses office giving my misses a hard time on the bosses desk to care who was kiss who.

You're clearly not the same, as whilst you're giving your lovely wife a seeing to, LT is cheating on his.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Mariah_Carey

You're clearly not the same, as whilst you're giving your lovely wife a seeing to, LT is cheating on his.

He is not cheating, what he is saying is what men do, we are not to blame for other men cheating,

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

He is not cheating, what he is saying is what men do, we are not to blame for other men cheating,

No, he said "It's what men do" that's saying he believes cheating isn't wrong and it's a natural part of being a man.

Which is fine if that's his opinion on it, but would he extend the same courtesy to his lady friend and allow her to go off and ride all the cock she wants?

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Mariah_Carey

No, he said "It's what men do" that's saying he believes cheating isn't wrong and it's a natural part of being a man.

Which is fine if that's his opinion on it, but would he extend the same courtesy to his lady friend and allow her to go off and ride all the cock she wants?

Men and women cheat and some kill their partner or the person who they cheated with it don't stop people cheating, but most people don't get involved, in other people lives.

The police will tell you never get involved on a domestic as the person who tries to help normally gets attacked from the woman and the man.