[user104658]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Yeah spot on. I wouldn't like my loved ones to remember me in that kind of way and I would like some sort of dignity in death

People say "you remember the good times" but for me that's been a lie. When I remember my mum it comes with that attached image of a yellow, swollen zombie gasping in a hospital bed. Maybe I need therapy or something .

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

People say "you remember the good times" but for me that's been a lie. When I remember my mum it comes with that attached image of a yellow, swollen zombie gasping in a hospital bed. Maybe I need therapy or something .

Yeah, I never bought into lines like that either when it comes to death. When I was 18 my best friend died and I really didn't want to see her body, my reasoning was I didn't want to picture her dead everytime I remembered her and my dad kept pushing and pushing for me to go in the funeral home because I'd regret it and I almost did but turned back at the door. I'm so glad to this day that I didn't do it. Everyone said how peaceful she looked etc but her sister said to me afterwards that she wishes she never saw her because she didn't look like her at all and now she can't get that image out of her head

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

People say "you remember the good times" but for me that's been a lie. When I remember my mum it comes with that attached image of a yellow, swollen zombie gasping in a hospital bed. Maybe I need therapy or something .

Yes. I agree with this for sure. I have so many happy memories of my uncle..mainly from childhood days. I went to see him a few days before he died and I no longer really remember the good stuff, I just remember him clutching at his throat doing what I now know to be 'the death rattle' and looking like a corpse already