[Chuck]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

yeah, but that can happen to men who aren't in wheel chairs too

-is a lucky man-

[Benjamin]

Honestly I don't think I could. I'm too selfish a lot of the time and I'm hard work, so I wouldn't make their lives any easier.

[MTVN]

Originally Posted by chuck.pass

I feel extremely guilty, awful, horrendous and shallow to say this, but I wouldnt.

This. I feel like a prick for saying it but I dont think I would

[Locke.]

Any takers?

[Ithinkiloveyoutoo]

Absobloody lutely!! To be honest I may be boy crazy but at the end of the day life is too short to worry about how you would look in public. In the end what matters is someone you can share life, your life and dislikes with. He would still have to have a face i was attracted to of course and as long as they can **** i'm fine But people in wheelchairs are able to do a lot of things and some of their will power and new found respect and passion for life make you fall in love with them.

[Doogle]

Of course.. Makes no difference to me.

[Niall]

Originally Posted by Beastie

Yeah. Look at Artie from Glee. He's well fit!

But seriously, yeah I would.

[Fetch The Bolt Cutters]

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Ninastar

I wanted to watch this, what channel was it on?

itv, you can find it in 4 parts on youtube if you type in strangeways episode 2 part1

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by parmnion

itv, you can find it in 4 parts on youtube if you type in strangeways episode 2 part1

thank you

[Kerry]

Yes, I could

[GypsyGoth]

Yep I would, I don't see it making a difference.

[Callum]

I don't think I could, nothing against people who use wheelchairs and I'd be more than happy to become best friends with someone in a wheel chair, just don't think I could date someone in one.

[BB_Eye]

Couldn't say for sure without having experienced it for myself. I wouldn't make me less attracted to them though.

[joeysteele]

I have 2 friends who started going out with each other,after they had been for only 2 weeks, on a trip he dived into the sea and near broke his neck hitting the bottom, he has been left partially paralysed and is in a wheelchair, this happened over 2 years ago now but it has made no difference at all to my other friend and they are planning to marry.

Neither has his being in a wheelchair changed in any way his true friends treatment towards him or even taking notice of his disabilities,all just want his Friendship.

[Judas]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Why though? You can't judge every person in a wheel chair from 1 person you knew, that's crazy!

I know, it is awfull. It's just I don't think I could find them attractive. Maybe it's just part of me, I guess I see it as a weakness. And the whole 'sterile' thing I guess stems from the one person I do know who was more plain and bland than an A4 peice of paper. I know it's band to stereotype, but for some reason I just don't think I could date someone in a wheelchair. It's bad, but I think true for me.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Judas

I know, it is awfull. It's just I don't think I could find them attractive. Maybe it's just part of me, I guess I see it as a weakness. And the whole 'sterile' thing I guess stems from the one person I do know who was more plain and bland than an A4 peice of paper. I know it's band to stereotype, but for some reason I just don't think I could date someone in a wheelchair. It's bad, but I think true for me.

yeah but there's plenty of able bodied people who are bland or emotionally sterile too I'm not saying you should date someone in a wheel chair, it was just the comment about them being emotionally sterile that I thought was a bit out of order!

[Judas]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

yeah but there's plenty of able bodied people who are bland or emotionally sterile too I'm not saying you should date someone in a wheel chair, it was just the comment about them being emotionally sterile that I thought was a bit out of order!

No I know, it's bad. I guess it would change if I met someone different, I guess it's just like when you meet a dick head with a certain name, and before you meet someone else nice with that name you just hate it. Also it may be the general look of being in chair, I know it's wrong but I would feel like I couldn't just spontaneously go for a hug or something. I realise what an ignorant dick I sound.

[BigBrotherfan4ever]

As a wheelchair user myself, im absolutely astonished with some of the people's attitudes on this forum, of people who are in a wheelchair, im a happily married woman, i live life to full as best i can.

[Claymores]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

Well screw the fact that I grew up around people with disabilities, and to add my father also had testicular cancer and had one removed, so don't even try opening that kind of can of worms.

I don't see how it's rude, I think you're just trying to create a reaction. Good luck with that.

This thread doesn't try to create a reaction? Jeez-oh kid - get a life or job. You seriously need to think about what yer saying.

[Stu]

Originally Posted by BigBrotherfan4ever

As a wheelchair user myself, im absolutely astonished with some of the people's attitudes on this forum, of people who are in a wheelchair, im a happily married woman, i live life to full as best i can.

I'm astonished at that attitude to be honest. If I was in a wheelchair I would fully understand and accept some peoples instinctive aversion to want to get into a relationship with me. That's just being realistic.

Is it any different to virtually every single one of us who have at some point internally turned down, ignored or walked away from a potential relationship or encounter with someone at a bar of club because he or she was simply physically not to our tastes?

Is that also a sick, disgusting thing? No it's just biology. The way we are. And obviously not all of us are the same as evident by the fact that you are married. But if I had a choice between two equally attractive and interesting people but one was in a wheelchair then I would go for the non wheelchair. I'm just being honest with you here so I hope that doesn't sound too harsh but come on. I'm obligated at the end of the day to tell the truth. Not everyone here will do that.
















I declare this can of worms open!

[Zippy]

yes but Ive never been around somebody in one and probably not likely to be. They generally live restricted isolated lives(relatively speaking) so people like me don't really get to interact with them.

But yes, if we clicked and there was an attraction. Although I think the wheelchair may certainly present very real practical problems; it may limit their ability to have sex. You may even have to assist them to the toilet. So its a real issue but love could conquer all I guess. Or lust if theyre really hot.

[LemonJam]

Originally Posted by Claymores

This thread doesn't try to create a reaction? Jeez-oh kid - get a life or job. You seriously need to think about what yer saying.

1. I'm not a kid, don't ****ing patronize me you old drunk.

2. Of course it's creating a reaction, it is a hard subject but you're just making it worse.

3. Everybody else is fine with it, you're the only one making a fuss quelle ****ing suprise.

[Shaun]

Originally Posted by Claymores

This thread doesn't try to create a reaction? Jeez-oh kid - get a life or job. You seriously need to think about what yer saying.

Grow. Up. You. 45. Year. Old. ****ing. Joke.

[Zippy]

Originally Posted by Judas

I would like to say yes, but sadly no. I don't think I would feel there could be so much emotional contact, for some reason I think I would see them in a emotional sense as sterile? I know how rude, and wrong, that sounds but I think it's just because the only person I've ever met in a wheelchair was really boring and closed-book, so it's kind of associated in my mind. Unless of course I was with, and in love with them before they entered the wheelchair.

dear Lord. What a narrow minded attitude.

thats just like saying you met a boring black person once and now associate all black people to be like that. Actually, its worse.

emotionally sterile? I would think if anybody knew about emotion its somebody struggling day to day trapped in a wheel chair. Seems its you thats emotionally sterile tbh.