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21-05-2018, 07:21 PM | #226 | |||
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This is so confusing. pan- has nothing to do with personality, neither does 'sexual' actually. I think there's been a bait & switch somewhere with this term... is my thought.
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21-05-2018, 07:25 PM | #227 | |||
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I think its just that all the other words in the dictionary have been used to describe someones preferences.
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21-05-2018, 07:27 PM | #228 | |||
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You've still not really explained the difference between "not being attracted to gender" and "being attracted to both genders". I've never heard of a bisexual person saying they're "attracted to gender". |
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21-05-2018, 07:31 PM | #229 | |||
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That's TWO of us.
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21-05-2018, 07:47 PM | #230 | |||
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What I'm arguing is that yes, the definition of pansexuality exists but it doesn't necessarily require the label. You can be bisexual and be attracted to personality. Myself, I'm straight, I'm attracted to men but I'm more attracted to a man's personality than what they look like. I'm still a heterosexual. Or are there separate categories for heterosexuals now, too?... Obviously I'm not stating that we straight people don't need labels so let's take away yours, but the only difference I'm seeing between pansexuals and bisexuals is what about a person attracts them more and that's a common difference in everyone. Last edited by Ashley.; 21-05-2018 at 07:49 PM. |
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21-05-2018, 08:01 PM | #231 | |||
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I do not rate myself as some sort of intellectual 'Dummy' but I admit that I am completely confused by this subject. I just see a need in some to keep categorising and labelling things where there is NO need to keep doing so. Baffled.
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21-05-2018, 08:01 PM | #232 | |||
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Sexuality's very complicated but also really simple, depending on what aspect is actually being talked about. The way I see it is that sexuality includes so many differences, and labels such as 'pansexual' address those differences (if someone so chooses to apply it to themselves). But then there's 'sexual orientation' (gay/straight/bisexual) which isn't so much about those nuances, but quite straight forward, in that it ignores the many possible reasons why someone is sexually attracted to someone else, it's just that they are attracted. It's not what leads to a sexual act taking place, it's who the sexual act is with. So in a way, 'pansexual' is more a descriptor of the individual, a statement expressing their wider views on gender identity/nonbinary genders, and also that they want people to know what those views are. It might be that one person wants to do so because they think it sounds superior to just saying they're 'bisexual', or it may be that they want people who identify with non binary genders to feel more validated, there's a whole load of reasons why someone might want to associate with a label. Orientation isn't an expression of beliefs or attitudes though and is simply determined by the resulting sexual relationships. And labels regarding orientation I think are really quite important since they have certain legal protections associated with them which we had to fight for, and is another reason why I think it's useful not to get muddled up between orientation and other preferences/identities/nuances of sexuality etc. Those laws don't see gender identity (and neither does the marginalisation of gay and lesbian people), they're specifically about the sex of the people you sleep with.
Put simply, you can tell if someone is gay/straight/bi/asexual based on who they do or don't want to have sex with. You can't tell if someone is pansexual based on that. And that's because it's a description of that persons personal attitudes within their sexual orientation, rather than an expression of orientation itself, which is what bisexuality is. But yes it's still valid for what it is. As for whether or not labels like pansexual are important. They're important if the individual using them to describe themselves considers them important I suppose. They can have certain social benefits if you want people to know what your 'type' is, or as a way of sharing something about your views. If someone is using their label to put someone else down then they're just a twat tbh But I don't think that's necessarily a problem with the label... some people are just twats.
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21-05-2018, 08:05 PM | #233 | |||
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Couldnt pan be further broken down into what type of personality they go for..like liking a blokey bloke..or a girly girl..etc etc etc.
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21-05-2018, 08:20 PM | #234 | ||
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21-05-2018, 08:29 PM | #235 | |||
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And I thought, if everyone has all these individual differences then surely the lines between sexuality are blurred or at the very least hard to apply, and if they are blurred, how can we possibly categorise everything? There's going to be crossovers - you're going to come across somebody for example who is more attracted to personality than gender, but within that has, say, a 72% likelihood of being attracted to the personality of a man/woman... I guess what I'm trying to say is, Kirk, I agree with you. It is confusing. Sexuality is a big enough topic as it is, without making it more complicated by... adding things. Last edited by Ashley.; 21-05-2018 at 08:54 PM. |
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21-05-2018, 10:12 PM | #236 | |||
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@Jamie98 I was about to call your aid, as you are usually so good with these topics.
Anyway, back to pan... If it's so subtly nuanced, then it's no wonder it's not setting off a lightbulbs for me. The pan- prefix is misleading because it's an unexpected usage given the class of words it's being used alongside. So that doesn't help... I have not heard about the attracted to personality definition before this thread, but maybe it was poorly explained before. And even then, I still can't say I understand it completely either... To be 100% honest here, if I were dating and I'd read on an app that the person was pansexy/etc, I'd probably swipe to reject. By first impressions, it's thinking a bit too hard and taking oneself too seriously. Kind of like how things like 'gluten intolerance' crept into people's lexicon when those persons became members of certain subcultures... But perhaps this is the intention... to signal to others within your common subculture that you. are. game. Bring me all your pansexual peni-... but for everyone else who can't wrap their little brains around my pansexiness, stay away... too "-normative", etc Anyway, when I hear these nuanced terms I do sometimes think they're a bat signal to others within a subculture that they fit into the deep thinking definition, more sensitive in an otherworldly sense type of person, but it doesn't really imply any actual depth if that makes any sense. So, again, it would be a red flag for me, because it may imply a preoccupation with oneself. I've met those folk before when I was dating (a long time ago Spoiler: This isn't me trying to pan the pan-sexual crowd (pun unintended)... just that if I were dating, this would be a huge stressor for me, deciding which side of the pan-sexual crowd that person fits in... genuine or superficial and I'd secretly worry if they were a furry (because I've seen that). Which is a failure of a label really... because shouldn't such labels enlighten or at least raise our awareness a bit on what those distinctive differences might be. Pan- doesn't clear this up because again, where is the "all"? I would think maybe a very likely chance there would be an irresolvable compatibility issue if I can't see myself simply slip my feet into their shoes after meeting them for a bit the first time, if simple labels present such obvious questions ... anyway, I wouldn't use the term in my dating profile, even if I identified that way, just because it fails the basic function of helping the other person screen whether we are actually compatible or not... (edit: unless I intentionally want to restrict my dating pool... ) I don't think labels by themselves are harmful, they're meant to be assistive. Like anything in life though, they come with preexisting connections and messages that can't be completely divorced from culture or other words in that same category (just like particular colors, smells, environments, etc)... which is why I'm trying to figure out where does this term apply in the culture in which we all currently reside in? I think resolve that and then it's easier to absorb pansexy's interpretation and to understand it's core meaning... we use words as social tools to relate to each other... it's like in graphic design... don't use words, messaging or colors in such a way that they connect others (unintentionally or not) to negative outcomes ... the goal should be crystal clear. Googling this term makes it even more confusing!! Free Dictionary https://www.thefreedictionary.com/pansexual Quote:
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21-05-2018, 10:30 PM | #237 | |||
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What do you think about agender people Withano? Males who get vexed whenever someone assumes their gender just because they’ve got a dick.
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21-05-2018, 10:35 PM | #238 | ||
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So after reading most of this thread and being confused as feck i decided to take my research to that bastion of intellectualism - YouTube.
Unfortunately it seems that the scholars of all things gender and sexuality related are just as fecking confused as the rest of us as they don’t agree themselves on the definition. Hardly a coherent definition or differentiation to be heard. I think what i got from it if anything was that ‘Pansexual’ seems to be a term used by those people who don’t believe in the so called ‘gender binary’ of man and woman.The kind of people who believe in the 72 genders theory. This is still confusing. So since nobody actually knows what it is.I conclude that it’s actually a load of bollocks. |
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21-05-2018, 10:49 PM | #239 | |||
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21-05-2018, 10:52 PM | #240 | |||
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21-05-2018, 10:54 PM | #241 | ||
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21-05-2018, 10:57 PM | #242 | ||
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I mean.This is a small sample of the incoherent waffle we’re dealing with.
I can’t make head nor tail of it.See if you understand it more and i’m missing something? |
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21-05-2018, 11:10 PM | #243 | |||
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21-05-2018, 11:11 PM | #244 | |||
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Don't get me wrong though, if someone wants to label themselves as 'Pansexual' I'm all for it - it isn't harming or affecting me in any way.
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21-05-2018, 11:12 PM | #245 | |||
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All I can gather is that it has to do with which label a person prefers. Bi- and pan- are interchangeable... in most cases?...
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22-05-2018, 12:31 AM | #246 | ||
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She did hit up on a good point in that video, that Pansexuals don't necessarily have to deal with the 'baggage' of being bi which I think is potentially a reason why people say they are pansexual, kinda like how some gay people will say they are bi because they don't want to admit they are gay.
The only differences between the two are perceived differences, not actual differences. |
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22-05-2018, 01:13 AM | #247 | |||
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Pansexual itself as a term is more fun and interesting I guess, because it draws more curiosity (and controversy) ... as clearly seen by the responses to this thread. That's another thing I've noticed. “Controversy” itself is trendy now. Whereas, it used to be all about being a rebel, but you were still near the edge of the box so to speak (outside the box, but not way out there in outer space, like a weirdo...)... Nobody wanted to be misconstrued as an anti-social freak in the 90's, it was forbidden... now that seems to be “in” in a way. More likely to be called a creative and some other free thinker... which is good in a way because people now give others a second look, but at the same time some of the more mundane aspects of life are getting brand new complicated and (sometimes confusing) re-definitions on the basis of abstract situations or outliers... but even to mention or talk about those outliers a conversation can cause major offense. |
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22-05-2018, 01:56 AM | #248 | ||
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I think the LGBT community can also be very unwelcoming to bisexual people as well, attitudes like Christopher Biggins' for example can be sadly quite common. |
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22-05-2018, 05:21 AM | #249 | |||
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People can call themselves what they like. But like non-binary gender identities, "pansexual" has no validity or relevance outside of the person's head.
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22-05-2018, 06:12 AM | #250 | |||
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...I guess what my thoughts are..(..ultimately...)...is that our sexuality is something inherent in us, that’s predetermined at birth...and whether we’re heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual etc...whatever our sexuality is, we find an ‘identifier../..a descriptor..’../type thing which identifies our own sexuality...for pansexual, some who identify as pansexual..?...it’s because they don’t feel or may not feel that ‘bisexual’ would be a correct or accurate identifier for them and their sexuality...I don’t think it’s any type of wanting to feel special in any type of way...but just more figuring out the definition of their sexuality...as sexuality is so much a part of people...
...and I guess for some ..(...as Jamie has said..)...that ‘label’ is important and as Withano has said...those ‘differences’ are important because they’re important to that pansexual person or those pansexual people who feel those terms and ‘identifiers’ are important and who feel that ‘bi’ does not really describe them in terms of their sexuality...beyond that though, too many labels just create confusion..(..I think...)...so become counterproductive to understanding, I fear.... |
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