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Originally Posted by Dezzy

I think you've just got to tell her no, at my place of work, extra hours are completely optional and we'd never think of questioning people on what they are doing if they were to say no, that's invasive as hell.

As long as you are fulfilling your contract hours then there's nothing she can really do legally. I'd check your contract though, just to make sure there's no some weird clause about flexibility that she's exploiting.

Also, you're not legally meant to work shifts with less than I think, 8 or 9 hours rest between them? I'm not sure of the specifics but we can't offer people who finish at 9 at night an early morning shift for example.

If your boss doesn't respect boundaries then you've just got to respectfully put some up.

Yeah I finished at 1am and was back in at 11:30am the same money which I didn’t particularly have a problem with because I don’t mind a bit of graft or getting my hands dirty but it’s just the general lack of respect for when I actually have a day off she can’t seem to respect that. I do say no and set up boundaries myself but it’s just not working so I shall have to try harder. I’ve fallen out with her on several occasions before but it doesn’t help that we’re similar in ages and she sees it more as a friendship than a working relationship.

Originally Posted by Withano

Yeh what Dezzy said... personally, I wouldnt answer her calls on my days off.

I do this too but eventually give in which I shouldn’t.

Originally Posted by bitontheslide

Ask for quadruple time if she tries it again, that should soon sort the problem out

This is another good idea because when I was doing my 13 hour shifts she said she’s done them before at another place but was on double time.

Originally Posted by Riley.

Oh sweetie I have been in a similar situation when I worked in a shop when I was 18/19 basically a boss thinking she can take the piss and thinking that if she offers to drive me home, not even that but making the supervisors drive me home even though it's not even on THEIR route just so I could work late, then laughing in my face when I said I couldn't work on days off because I made plans it's not like I just sat around all day on my day off waiting for work to call. Then when I had to take time off for a bad back AT NINETEEN because she made me carry all the heavy stuff and I physically couldn't get out of bed for a few days... well karma's a bitch because last I heard she had back problems and left work and had to have operations on her back, not that I'm evil but karma and all that. Anyway I am grateful for that experience because it made me able to say NO to people no matter how much they try to emotionally manipulate you. And I think you should stand up for yourself. Do you have a contract with where you work detailing your job description and minimum hours you must work? Because my old boss used to LIE to me and say I had to work whenever she demanded. I later found out it was because she didn't want to hire someone else to do the extra hours, I don't how it would have cost more but whatever.

Sorry you had to go through that hen! She sounds worse than mine. Yeah I suppose I should treat it as a learning curve. I think it’s more about her than me though. Like I can stand up for myself but she’s just so persistent and definitely a narcissist/sociopath.