[MTVN]

Sounds best to let this one go all things considered

[Lewismacfarlane]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Sounds best to let this one go all things considered

I don't really want to though

[AnnieK]

You need to talk to her Lewis and find out exactly what is going on. Does she want to stay friends. If so, you are both adults and need to deal with it together

[Lewismacfarlane]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

You need to talk to her Lewis and find out exactly what is going on. Does she want to stay friends. If so, you are both adults and need to deal with it together

Yesterday we were talking just fine but today I've heard nothing

[Marsh.]

So sorry for your loss.

[GoldHeart]

But why don't the parents approve?

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

Yesterday we were talking just fine but today I've heard nothing

…you were talking fine yesterday, do you think that you could be overthinking a bit, Lewis because you’re aware that her parents don’t approve the friendship…?….that would be easy to do as you know there are some negative feelings that may influence her thoughts…?…I know it’s difficult because you’re both in the same friendship group as well, Lewis…but keeping worries like this inside isn’t generally a good thing and I think having a chat with her atm would probably be the best plan….on a positive, if her parents haven’t approved the friendship…she’s still remained friends with you for 9yrs…?…so it’s a pretty strong friendship that I don’t think will be influenced very easily…?….we are all just now experiencing some freedoms we haven’t had so much either so maybe she’s just catching up with other people as well and a bit more socially active…try not to worry and just approach a gentle chat with her……

[Lewismacfarlane]

Its looking now like shes deleated me from social media

[thesheriff443]

There is a lot more going on in this friendship relationship thats not been said because it doesn’t add up.

I’m being a wanker here but are you or you friend on the spectrum autism Asperger’s ?
I’m saying this because of the parents being involved in a 25 year olds life.

[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

I don't really want to though

Well then don't tbh. It's nowt to do with her parents really. How old are yas? I could understand a bit it you were 10. But something's a bit off to me here especially if you have never met them and there are no problems going on.

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

Well then don't tbh. It's nowt to do with her parents really. How old are yas? I could understand a bit it you were 10. But something's a bit off to me here especially if you have never met them and there are no problems going on.

It’s a red flag for me concerning the parents, good parents want what’s best for their kids as we all do for them to be involved means something is not right.

[Ammi]

…you can try to contact her to try for a level of communication/explanation, Lewis…or maybe someone else in the friendship group that you have a particularly high level of trust with…?…but I also think that you may have to sadly start accepting that the friendship has no future and that it ending will lead you to opening new friendships as well and to feel happier within yourself….it’s causing you emotional uncertainty and it’s good for you to take steps in directions which will change that and allow other people into your life……

[Lewismacfarlane]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

It’s a red flag for me concerning the parents, good parents want what’s best for their kids as we all do for them to be involved means something is not right.

They even took her phone off of her

[Lewismacfarlane]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…you can try to contact her to try for a level of communication/explanation, Lewis…or maybe someone else in the friendship group that you have a particularly high level of trust with…?…but I also think that you may have to sadly start accepting that the friendship has no future and that it ending will lead you to opening new friendships as well and to feel happier within yourself….it’s causing you emotional uncertainty and it’s good for you to take steps in directions which will change that and allow other people into your life……

I really don't want the friendship to end

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

They even took her phone off of her

So the question is why?

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

I really don't want the friendship to end

…I understand that, Lewis …but a friendship isn’t a ‘one person’ thing and atm it’s not something being pursued by her as well …so maybe just let it rest and give it space atm…

[Lewismacfarlane]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…I understand that, Lewis …but a friendship isn’t a ‘one person’ thing and atm it’s not something being pursued by her as well …so maybe just let it rest and give it space atm…

It's hard though

[Lewismacfarlane]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

So the question is why?

She was still on her phone at 2 in the morning sometimes

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

It's hard though

Straight question have you become obsessed with here?
Can you go through a day without you feeling the need to contact her?

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

It's hard though

…I know and I feel for you……but it will be harder I think if you don’t give that space and resting time for both of you ….we can’t force things that aren’t happening and it isn’t just your friendship but maybe some family issues as well that she needs to work out…?….a friendship is stepping back and allowing her to do that as well if that’s what now allows….

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Ammi

…I know and I feel for you……but it will be harder I think if you don’t give that space and resting time for both of you ….we can’t force things that aren’t happening and it isn’t just your friendship but maybe some family issues as well that she needs to work out…?….a friendship is stepping back and allowing her to do that as well if that’s what now allows….

Some great advice.

[Lewismacfarlane]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

Straight question have you become obsessed with here?
Can you go through a day without you feeling the need to contact her?

Im not obsessed with her no

[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Lewismacfarlane

Im not obsessed with her no

Then you need take a step back and let her have some space.

[Lewismacfarlane]

I just hope shes still my friend

[AnnieK]

As sherrif said give her some time and space and if she reconnects with you that is great...if not, sadly it could be time to accept that that friendship is over