[user104658]

Redway what if I'm 6'2, well built, rock a beard AND have a deep voice? Prime beef and still TiBB's biggest feminist

In all seriousness though, I've always been tall and in MY experience, it's men themselves who have issues regarding their height/other men's height -- not women. The same goes for being "ripped". I think on a genuine psychological level, most people who are attracted to men/masculine features like some size/muscle BUT the over-the-top muscle definition is 100% to impress other blokes ... vast majority of women are not that fussed or even dislike it.

But isn't that usually the way, and that's not just men, women too are often the harshest critics of their own/other women's bodies and notice things as negatives that men don't actually care about at all.

It's all just socialisation none of it particularly comes into the real psychology of attraction at all.

Also -- a lot of it is what people prefer when looking at people on a screen. Massive under-estimation of the effects of both personality and, as we are all just animals at the end of the day, pheromones when it comes to real world attraction.

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

Redway what if I'm 6'2, well built, rock a beard AND have a deep voice? Prime beef and still TiBB's biggest feminist

In all seriousness though, I've always been tall and in MY experience, it's men themselves who have issues regarding their height/other men's height -- not women. The same goes for being "ripped". I think on a genuine psychological level, most people who are attracted to men/masculine features like some size/muscle BUT the over-the-top muscle definition is 100% to impress other blokes ... vast majority of women are not that fussed or even dislike it.

But isn't that usually the way, and that's not just men, women too are often the harshest critics of their own/other women's bodies and notice things as negatives that men don't actually care about at all.

It's all just socialisation none of it particularly comes into the real psychology of attraction at all.

Also -- a lot of it is what people prefer when looking at people on a screen. Massive under-estimation of the effects of both personality and, as we are all just animals at the end of the day, pheromones when it comes to real world attraction.

Great post and spot on. I have a "type" when it comes to which celebrities I find attractive, not so much in real life because as you pointed out there's much more involved in being really attracted to a person than just what they look like. I would say what I found most attractive in Gavin when I met him was his confidence and sense of humour (and his arms )

[user104658]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Great post and spot on. I have a "type" when it comes to which celebrities I find attractive, not so much in real life because as you pointed out there's much more involved in being really attracted to a person than just what they look like. I would say what I found most attractive in Gavin when I met him was his confidence and sense of humour (and his arms )

It drives my wife mad when I say I don't have celebs that I find attractive, she thinks I'm being coy/not telling the truth . I'm like "I can tell you which characters in films I find attractive but I wouldn't necessarily find the same actor attractive in a different role..."

Seems to be very little to do with looks. Not zero obviously. But that bit past "objectively aesthetically pleasing person".

[ChristmasNeeve]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

It drives my wife mad when I say I don't have celebs that I find attractive, she thinks I'm being coy/not telling the truth . I'm like "I can tell you which characters in films I find attractive but I wouldn't necessarily find the same actor attractive in a different role..."

Seems to be very little to do with looks. Not zero obviously. But that bit past "objectively aesthetically pleasing person".

Actually a good example of that is Cillian Murphy (not for me but I've heard loads of people say this about him) That they don't fancy Cillian Murphy but they fancy Thomas Shelby (Cillian Murphys character in Peaky Blinders in case anyone hasn't watched that and if you haven't you're missing out!)

[Urban Cragou]

Originally Posted by Soldier Boy

Redway what if I'm 6'2, well built, rock a beard AND have a deep voice? Prime beef and still TiBB's biggest feminist

In all seriousness though, I've always been tall and in MY experience, it's men themselves who have issues regarding their height/other men's height -- not women. The same goes for being "ripped". I think on a genuine psychological level, most people who are attracted to men/masculine features like some size/muscle BUT the over-the-top muscle definition is 100% to impress other blokes ... vast majority of women are not that fussed or even dislike it.

But isn't that usually the way, and that's not just men, women too are often the harshest critics of their own/other women's bodies and notice things as negatives that men don't actually care about at all.

It's all just socialisation none of it particularly comes into the real psychology of attraction at all.

Also -- a lot of it is what people prefer when looking at people on a screen. Massive under-estimation of the effects of both personality and, as we are all just animals at the end of the day, pheromones when it comes to real world attraction.

B.I.B.: an anomaly.

A lot of young woman have been sucked into the toxicity of this business of guys/men being extra-tall just to that the "6"4" some guys write on their Insta. bio's (using Instagram like it's Tinder or Fabswingers, I.M.O., is just the height of vapid shallowness but that's a different story altogether so let's not get into that, eh?) is extra-warranted.

O.T.T. muscle is just nasty but that's just my opinion. I know some guys/young men (and when I say young I suppose I mean anyone under t'age of, sort of, 35/40) channel some of their internal baggage into sports/working out and just throw themselves in the gym/football but people who are all-sport (unless it's athletics) and zero personality besides what they've constructed for themselves on the basis of footie this, hench that are some of the most vapid and boring people going, let me tell you.