[Garfie]

Originally Posted by Mrluvaluva

Yeah. I think she's most probably been sheltered from normal social settings, apart from going to college etc, but maybe she didn't have much interaction with other students? We don't know much about her upbringing but she has mentioned this is the first time away from her parents. She's calmed down a lot. The fact she asked Ali about nasal hygiene shows she hasn't been taught certain things and she just thinks picking her nose in front of others is socially acceptable. Sometimes she shows awareness about things going on in the world but other times not. She's a conundrum!

Conundrum! You’ve identified the perfect word to sum her up!

What 20 year old hasn’t been taught nasal hygiene!?
What 20 year old believes it is the norm to pick her nose and eat it, especially in public, and on national television!!?
What 20 year old hasn’t been taught to use a tissue!?
This surely can’t be real, can it!?

She says she has worked at the Chinese Takeaway for 6 years, which suggests she will have had lots of human interaction with colleagues and customers, and she must have demonstrated appropriate behaviour to have maintained a job for so long .

She has also had 13 years in school/college, and even if she didn’t make close friends, she will have observed social norms in others, and her teachers will certainly have addressed any inappropriate behaviour, and explained expectations!

And, surely, no family is going to ignore the behaviour she demonstrates!? I mean, how could anyone live with her noise and chaos, not to mention her nasal habits, without addressing it!!? :

Something just doesn’t add up! It’s not normal! I’m bewildered!