[Merry Mockmas]

Originally Posted by BBXX

What does, saying that toxic masculinity exists?

As a man, some toxic masculinity examples I see regularly from men are:

• not expressing their feelings for fear of shame or mocking

• mocking or shaming men for expressing their feelings

• refusing to pull their weight around the house

• not letting their son play with dolls or wear pink

• consistently not control their anger

• acting like their wife/girlfriend is a weight around their neck in front of their mates

• being uncomfortable around gay men

• believing men should be in financial control in a relationship

• mocking therapy

Now some of these are acted out by women too, so you may ask what makes these examples of toxic masculinity rather than just toxic behaviours, and I think it's the intentions behind them - most of these sorts of actions when acted out by men are because it makes them feel like less of a man. The actions are linked to the maleness, rather than despite it. People who behave like this often define manliness with physical strength, power and a set of binary rules from long ago. and nothing more.

Don't get me wrong, I am an advocate for men, I think there are many things that men are victim to in society that harm them and often these are directly from women. I also think toxic femininity exists, too and can be equally damaging.

To me what you've described is an extreme example of someone with Machismo.

Even the noun description of Machismo talks about the person having "strong or aggressive masculine pride" which fits your description of Toxic Masculinity quite well imo.