[vesavius]

Originally Posted by Mrluvaluva

But she did cause offence because without her saying that there wouldn't have been an issue. It was her words that instigated the whole thing. We're obviously not going to agree on that.

And as I said Emily inadvertently caused offence to others. Charley said she was ok with it but couldn't let it go.

Sometimes we can't help our emotional responses. We're all human after all.

In response to your last question I think therapy does help in certain situations. And it's down to certain factors. I'm a great believer in encouraging someone to talk and let their emotions out rather than just bottle them up.

And as I said, she didn't cause anything. Charley wasn't even offended until others told her she should be

Look, it's good to have emotions, I am not saying be a robot, I am saying that if your emotions control you rather than the other way around then you are in trouble.

Existing in a state of perpetual offense is really unhealthy. It also makes every discussion emotion based which in turn makes it next to impossible to find a middle ground.

[Merry Mockmas]

Originally Posted by vesavius

And as I said, she didn't cause anything. Charley wasn't even offended until others told her she should be

Look, it's good to have emotions, I am not saying be a robot, I am saying that if your emotions control you rather than the other way around then you are in trouble.

Existing in a state of perpetual offense is really unhealthy. It also makes every discussion emotion based which in turn makes it next to impossible to find a middle ground.

I agree with this part in particular.

The Emily situation though I have three stances on.

1. I think that Emily shouldn't have been thrown out over saying a slur. Because actions speak louder than words, even negative stuff. I know that I'm making a very controversial statement here, but it is how I feel.

2. Even if I were to concede my opinion on my first part (because I can understand the other side of the argument tbf) Emily was singing a lyric to a song if I'm not mistaken, so again no malice was intended.

At worst it should've been a warning off BB, but instead they overreacted.

And 3. I definitely understand why Charley was offended for obvious reasons.