[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

Yes an occasional break is lovely Ammi. I don't go for long but when I do Karl steps in. I'm lucky in that respect. I'm just so glad we still have his mum at 83 years of age and she's so lovely. I get on with her very well, she made me welcome from the start. I'd known her a couple of years before I moved in. We took her out in the wheelchair for the first time a few days ago when the weather was decent and she loved it. Life's.little pleasures.

…when my mother in law answers her phone…(…she’s in her 90’s…)…she always says…’hello darling, I’m still alive…!!!!!!’….Im glad that Karl’s mom likes her wheelchair, she’ll be able to be a part of so much more than she was before…

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

…when my mother in law answers her phone…(…she’s in her 90’s…)…she always says…’hello darling, I’m still alive…!!!!!!’….Im glad that Karl’s mom likes her wheelchair, she’ll be able t9 be a part of so much more than she was before…

Yes, she didn't have much of a life when she couldn't get out anymore. Even taking stuff out to the wheelie bin is hard for her so I do all that.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

Yes, she didn't have much of a life when she couldn't get out anymore. Even taking stuff out to the wheelie bin is hard for her so I do all that.

…only two more sleeps to go now so focus on taking some time for yourself each of those days…just to totally chill, there are so many self relaxation things to try on YouTube, if you look…but make that a part of your routine for whatever time period you can…we don’t want a Titanic type drowning scene with you and Vanessa in Liverpool……seriously, take some time for you over the next few days and try to make that part of your routine going forward…

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

…only two more sleeps to go now so focus on taking some time for yourself each of those days…just to totally chill, there are so many self relaxation things to try on YouTube, if you look…but make that a part of your routine for whatever time period you can…we don’t want a Titanic type drowning scene with you and Vanessa in Liverpool……seriously, take some time for you over the next few days and try to make that part of your routine going forward…

I will Ammi.

I'd just like to also say that I don't half appreciate the support I get on here from people, you and Cherie being two of them. It's lovely.

I feel I now have motivation to get up in a morning, usually between 5.30 and 6am to do breakfasts etc. There's always a chance for an hours nap mid morning. Before I lived here because I'd lost Josh I was alone and my time was hard to fill. When I was with Josh until 2014 I was depressed most of the time before I got sorted with medication and counselling that went back to Josh's dad and the abusive relationship and later my mums death. So I wasn't doing much housework etc and yes I probably emotionally didn't support Josh enough either looking back. He had to grow up so quickly. He did turn into a fine young man though so I must have done something right.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

I will Ammi.

I'd just like to also say that I don't half appreciate the support I get on here from people, you and Cherie being two of them. It's lovely.

I feel I now have motivation to get up in a morning, usually between 5.30 and 6am to do breakfasts etc. There's always a chance for an hours nap mid morning. Before I lived here because I'd lost Josh I was alone and my time was hard to fill. When I was with Josh until 2014 I was depressed most of the time before I got sorted with medication and counselling that went back to Josh's dad and the abusive relationship and later my mums death. So I wasn't doing much housework etc and yes I probably emotionally didn't support Josh enough either looking back. He had to grow up so quickly. He did turn into a fine young man though so I must have done something right.

…I think that it sounds as though you supported him as much as you were able to at the time, Kate…it’s that self care again, isn’t it though…if we don’t preserve anything in ourselves, then there is little to give to others…as you say, your balance is there more now because you have your routine and focus more etc…but to try to think of it still as a ‘work in progress’ because the more that you have those other focuses in caring for others, than the more energy you need so more self care…it really is about keeping that balance…if you use more then you need more, you know…Liverpool and your time with Vanessa will really help, I think…have the best time and Vanessa is a great person to help that to happen also……

[Kate!]

Originally Posted by Pigeon Lady

…I think that it sounds as though you supported him as much as you were able to at the time, Kate…it’s that self care again, isn’t it though…if we don’t preserve anything in ourselves, then there is little to give to others…as you say, your balance is there more now because you have your routine and focus more etc…but to try to think of it still as a ‘work in progress’ because the more that you have those other focuses in caring for others, than the more energy you need so more self care…it really is about keeping that balance…if you use more then you need more, you know…Liverpool and your time with Vanessa will really help, I think…have the best time and Vanessa is a great person to help that to happen also……

Yes that's soooo true about @Santa's NaughtiNess

Every moment spent with her is a pleasure. She's just so lovely. We have very similar tastes and get on like a house on fire. She's so warm funny and enthusiastic. I'm proud to call her my friend I value our times together cos they go so fast.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

Yes that's soooo true about @Santa's NaughtiNess

Every moment spent with her is a pleasure. She's just so lovely. We have very similar tastes and get on like a house on fire. She's so warm funny and enthusiastic. I'm proud to call her my friend I value our times together cos they go so fast.

……

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Holly Christmas

Yes that's soooo true about @Santa's NaughtiNess

Every moment spent with her is a pleasure. She's just so lovely. We have very similar tastes and get on like a house on fire. She's so warm funny and enthusiastic. I'm proud to call her my friend I value our times together cos they go so fast.

Aw thank you. Likewise

[Vanessa]

We're in Wetherspoon. Really enjoyed that panto, it was so much fun.
We're off to look at the shops before we go.
My trains both got cancelled , but luckily I can get the next one.

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Santa's NaughtiNess

We're in Wetherspoon. Really enjoyed that panto, it was so much fun.
We're off to look at the shops before we go.
My trains both got cancelled , but luckily I can get the next one.

…always a bright side with you, Vanessa……I’m going to call you Vanessa Brightside…

[Benjamin]

Originally Posted by Santa's NaughtiNess

We're in Wetherspoon. Really enjoyed that panto, it was so much fun.
We're off to look at the shops before we go.
My trains both got cancelled , but luckily I can get the next one.

It’s a sign you should look at the shops before heading home.

[Beso]

Originally Posted by Santa's NaughtiNess

We're in Wetherspoon. Really enjoyed that panto, it was so much fun.
We're off to look at the shops before we go.
My trains both got cancelled , but luckily I can get the next one.

Mak sure to demand 1st class