[Redway]

Originally Posted by Mystic Mock

In fairness we've probably all done a bit of triangulation in the past, without even realising it.

I'm admittedly just a hypocrite that hates it when it has been done to me.

No-one likes to be triangulated, to be fair, but to me there’s a definite line that’s crossed when the people doing it don’t even know you; they’ve just decided to take a dislike to you for reasons that have nothing to do with you as you truly are (like I said elsewhere). Empty leverage from something you said years ago that they never understood (even and especially at the time), vague impressions, misread tone (which can happen a lot online, naturally), you might remind them of someone they don’t like. Sometimes it’s resentment they’ve been holding onto that was never really yours to carry, but now you’re the scapegoat for whatever unresolved mess they’ve clung to. Anything. Either way, Mock, it ain’t your bag to carry and it ain’t mine, either. People will construct a whole load of imaginary nonsense about who you are based on scraps overripe for the bin. Just got to let them stew and keep chasing shadows. They don’t know you well enough to have a problem with you. They have a problem with who they think you are, and what’s more important than what other people think about you is what you (and other people who truly know you) know about yourself. If someone thinks you’re arrogant (for-example) and you know you’re not, that’s their misperception, their projection, not reality. And they’ll likely get it into their skulls eventually, no-matter the noise they make in-between.