[Patrick]

Hey Guys,
Im just wondering if anyone could help me here.

I often find myself abit nervous around others as I dont know what to say.

At first I thought it was me being shy but as I got older I realised I do want to say things to my friends but im afraid of what their reaction will be even if it isnt that big deal.

Everytime people in school talk to me, Im always 'boring' to them and then I feel sad incase it made them think I was ignoring them.

Heres an example of a conversation:

Mate: Hey Patrick, Any Craic?
Me: Um Hiya..
Mate: What you doing later?
Me: I dont know..
Mate: ..Alright then *Walks away*

Now, I would actually want to tell them what Im doing later but I would be afraid incase they didnt like what I was doing later you get me?

God knows how many girls have tried to make conversation with me and I just fail at talking back with them.

I have nothing to say to anyone, thats why I use TiBB Alot, To talk to people and be myself but sometimes on here I would also be afraid of posting somthing incase people took it the wrong way.

I really want to make friends and be able to talk to this girl more, but Everytime they talk to me I just answer in One Word

So basically my Social Skills Are ****.

Anyone else like this?

And is there a way for it to be fixed?

[Tom]

Just be more forward. Like where you said "I don't know" you should've followed it by "why what are you doing?". Might have been an offer to go somewhere

[ILoveTRW]

be the person asking the questions

[Jack_]

I struggle with confidence to a certain extent. I'll easily to talk to most people and not care in most social situations, but if I'm confined to a workplace such as a classroom, for some strange reason I can be the complete opposite...and can get embarrassed easily.

All very strange. I'd suggest trying not to care what people think.

[zotler.]

Originally Posted by Jack_

I struggle with confidence to a certain extent. I'll easily to talk to most people and not care in most social situations, but if I'm confined to a workplace such as a classroom, for some strange reason I can be the complete opposite...and can get embarrassed easily.

All very strange. I'd suggest trying not to care what people think.

That's definitely easier said than done; he should try not to fear social rejection.
Patrick, to me it sounds as though you're afraid people are going to misinterpret the things you are saying. You shouldn't worry about it, unless you are instinctively very blunt.

E.G (Using your conversation to base off)
"Oh, I'll probably be sitting at my computer fapping to some lesbian porn later."


But, you could try a different approach where you give less information, but still enough information to form a conversation from.
"Probably just staying at home. Why, what about you?"

From that you're not lying, and you can form a conversation from it! You should try thinking about what you're saying before you say it, but not thinking about it too much that you end up having to mumble something :P

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by zotler.

That's definitely easier said than done

Of course...I know that myself

[Patrick]

Originally Posted by zotler.

That's definitely easier said than done; he should try not to fear social rejection.
Patrick, to me it sounds as though you're afraid people are going to misinterpret the things you are saying. You shouldn't worry about it, unless you are instinctively very blunt.

E.G (Using your conversation to base off)
"Oh, I'll probably be sitting at my computer fapping to some lesbian porn later."


But, you could try a different approach where you give less information, but still enough information to form a conversation from.
"Probably just staying at home. Why, what about you?"

From that you're not lying, and you can form a conversation from it! You should try thinking about what you're saying before you say it, but not thinking about it too much that you end up having to mumble something :P

Oh I know what you mean, I`ll take that into account, and everything else Jack, Tom and ILoveDC Said.


Thanks for the replies.