[Tom.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

Much as I can understand totally what you are saying: in reality though: how many 'fathers to be', would say: Have the baby, I will look after it 24/7?

In reality: there really wouldn't be that many - I honestly believe there are very few out there who would.

You can flip that around and ask how many women have kids against the fathers wishes, only to force the father to pay up or have some involvement when they don't want to. Its not fair and easier for women to get out of.

Originally Posted by Vicky.

I really wonder if some mens opinions on this would change if it was THEIR body they were ruining for life, them who had chances of complications during pregnancy, them who could potentially be left alone to deal with a child that they may not be able to actually support financially or emotionally.

Yeah fair enough, dont want to get pregnant, dont have sex...or use contraception, but its not always as easy as that. Many people do use all methods of contraception, and it still happens sometimes :/

I agree that the limit should be lowered drastically though. 24 weeks is ridiculous.

If you think contraception will stop you having a baby then you're very naive and shouldn't be having sex. It reduces your chances, but doesn't eliminate it and you need to accept it can still happen.

And even through pregnancy doubts, both mothers and fathers often change their minds and bond with their babies almost straight away whether they wanted it or not.