[Beastie]

Originally Posted by Jords

I agree with both in different ways.

Dont agree that boys are 'straight up in your face', maybe back in the day but many just make snide remarks getting a small crowd having a giggle. Theyre more harsh than girls, but girls start it for stupid reasons and keep it up for longer and can be very 2-faced without you knowing.

I think personally girls are meaner to girls. Mostly down to jealousy/insecurities.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Beastie

Backstabbing hurts more. This is why I was more hurt by people I thought were my "friends" at school. At least I knew where I stood when I was picked on/bullied by someone I couldn't give a toss about.

My group of friends at the time were mostly girls. So I am guessing girls are meaner.

Originally Posted by Beastie

I think personally girls are meaner to girls. Mostly down to jealousy/insecurities.

completely agree with both of your comments. Very few of us don't have a bitch now and then, that's human nature - it's a rare person who never ever does:- but backstabbing as you say is one of the most nasty, vile, behaviours ever and woman I think do indeed excel in this. I agree with your thoughts: it's usually down to jealousy or their own insecurities. A lot of woman I know think they are 'leaders' when in fact, they are just 'followers' - because they are so insecure.

As I said earlier though: there are men out there that are as bullying but on a different level: but equally as nasty for the recepient.

[Beastie]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

completely agree with both of your comments. Very few of us don't have a bitch now and then, that's human nature - it's a rare person who never ever does:- but backstabbing as you say is one of the most nasty, vile, behaviours ever and woman I think do indeed excel in this. I agree with your thoughts: it's usually down to jealousy or their own insecurities. A lot of woman I know think they are 'leaders' when in fact, they are just 'followers' - because they are so insecure.

As I said earlier though: there are men out there that are as bullying but on a different level: but equally as nasty for the recepient.

Yeah. I mean I talk about people behind their back. Not friends though.. I usually have a laugh with someone about managers at work.. which ones we like.. which ones we are unsure of. With friends I don't bitch about them. Or at the very most.. if I had a problem with a friend then I would ask someone for advice then go back to that friend.

Don't see a point in backstabbing someone your always nice to. It's like living a lie.

Suppose in school we were all confused. Going through puberty. All insecure in some way or other. No excuse for people's extreme horrible behaviour though.

[Pyramid*]

Originally Posted by Beastie

Yeah. I mean I talk about people behind their back. Not friends though.. I usually have a laugh with someone about managers at work.. which ones we like.. which ones we are unsure of. With friends I don't bitch about them. Or at the very most.. if I had a problem with a friend then I would ask someone for advice then go back to that friend.

Don't see a point in backstabbing someone your always nice to. It's like living a lie.

Suppose in school we were all confused. Going through puberty. All insecure in some way or other. No excuse for people's extreme horrible behaviour though.

first part in bold: this is what female 'true' friends do. they will broach the subject and clear the air. The 'supposed' friends don't....they will agree with you to your face, then rip you to shreds with others (males and females) within their social groups. Gang mentality I suppose coming into play and trying to be top dog, seeming to be popular (back to insecurity etc).

second part in bold. You again are right......with maturity comes experience -and any lesson learned personally through experience tends often to be the best lesson in which you learn from.

EG: how many times do you hear people say, "i'm never turning into my mother / father"..... whizz to 20 years on, and they find they are doing exactly that!!! lol

A lot of the same principle applies. Also very much depends on the emotional maturity (and self confidence) of the 'younger' individual.