[Grimnir]

If a man has a stag do, you know already that he is the type of character who puts his mates first and girlfriend second. Women who have hen nights believe in their friends first and man second.
So why the surprise if the man/woman cheats when you know beforehand you are not the number one love of their life? You are not even 2nd or 3rd or 4th.
For them it goes family>mates>lover.
If someone priority was lover>family>mates then they would not want to even have a stag do/hen night in the first place. Instead they would want to have maybe a romantic night with each other. To me, this couple seems a lot more in "love"
You have zero grounds for complaint if man/woman cheats on stag/hen night as you have already accepted your status as being second to the mates.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Grimnir

If a man has a stag do, you know already that he is the type of character who puts his mates first and girlfriend second. Women who have hen nights believe in their friends first and man second.
So why the surprise if the man/woman cheats when you know beforehand you are not the number one love of their life? You are not even 2nd or 3rd or 4th.
For them it goes family>mates>lover.
If someone priority was lover>family>mates then they would not want to even have a stag do/hen night in the first place. Instead they would want to have maybe a romantic night with each other. To me, this couple seems a lot more in "love"
You have zero grounds for complaint if man/woman cheats on stag/hen night as you have already accepted your status as being second to the mates.

that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. You think a good relationship means never spending time with your friends for a man?

[Grimnir]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

that's the most ridiculous thing I've ever read. You think a good relationship means never spending time with your friends for a man?

If someone would rather spend time with their friends than husband/wife then its not really an important relationship is it.
It is nothing more than a buddy who you occasionally ******. ****** buddy.
So if one of them cheats, who cares really? It wasn't important to begin with

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Grimnir

If someone would rather spend time with their friends than husband/wife then its not really an important relationship is it.
It is nothing more than a buddy who you occasionally ******. ****** buddy.
So if one of them cheats, who cares really? It wasn't important to begin with

so you think that if you're in a relationship with someone you should never go out with your friends? I think it's important and far more healthy to be able to spend time with your friends as well as your partner. The point of the matter is, in a good, committed and trusting relationship you wouldn't even worry about your partner cheating while they're out.

[Grimnir]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

so you think that if you're in a relationship with someone you should never go out with your friends? I think it's important and far more healthy to be able to spend time with your friends as well as your partner. The point of the matter is, in a good, committed and trusting relationship you wouldn't even worry about your partner cheating while they're out.

why you keep going to the extreme and misquoting me?

i never said they NEVER go out with friends. I talking about someone who enjoys and prefers to go out with their friends rather than partner. So they choose more times to spend time with friends.
Whether it is a guy who prefers to go down pub with his mates and woman who prefers night out with the girls instead of being with their partner.

Its not thy should NEVER go out with friends. Its what do they prefer?
If they prefer spending time with friend over lover/partner/spouse its not a very good relationship in my opinion.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Grimnir

why you keep going to the extreme and misquoting me?

i never said they NEVER go out with friends. I talking about someone who enjoys and prefers to go out with their friends rather than partner. So they choose more times to spend time with friends.
Whether it is a guy who prefers to go down pub with his mates and woman who prefers night out with the girls instead of being with their partner.

Its not thy should NEVER go out with friends. Its what do they prefer?
If they prefer spending time with friend over lover/partner/spouse its not a very good relationship in my opinion.

ok, that's fair enough, it's just when you said "If a man has a stag do, you know already that he is the type of character who puts his mates first and girlfriend second. " that's the impression you gave off.

[MTVN]

Originally Posted by Grimnir

If someone would rather spend time with their friends than husband/wife then its not really an important relationship is it.
It is nothing more than a buddy who you occasionally ******. ****** buddy.
So if one of them cheats, who cares really? It wasn't important to begin with

LOL what bull, so spending one night with some friends as part of a traditional celebration means that you must not love your partner.

You're talking out your ass, loving someone doesnt mean that they're the only person you can ever spend any time with, and that you have to sacrifice and cut ties with any friends you previously had.