[Vicky.]

Originally Posted by Pyramid*

that's a completly different set of circumstances though. Completely different altogether. Yes we can say retrospectively what we thought of them in the house, but not then currently, with them as a member, say "You are dick".

We aren't talking about that. We are talking about a current member - and you saying that it's okay to describe that member currently as being a dick - that's how this is being perceived - that it's okay to do that as long as you don't do it to their face, (ie: on another thread).

I understand "David, when you were nasty to Fayes mum, you were being dick" - vs "David, you are a dick" (present tense) - but you saying its fine to say it on another thread, as long as it's not said TO them -that that is okay..... that's wrong.

I'm really confused as to what your point is to be honest.

I never said the bit in bold AT ALL.

I am not saying it is ok to insult them on another thread...I'm saying it is ok to continue to have a negative opinion(and if said opinion is that they were a dick, then so be it), and voice that opinion, regardless of if the person in question is a member or not. But it would not be ok to say to him that he is a dick :S