[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..ok...*feels embarrassed*...well, I have this 'hate' of people putting things on high shelves or on top of cupboards so that I can't see them properly or reach them easily...it's one of those silly things that makes my blood boil and that's not really rational...it's no big deal, is it?
Through cognative behaviour therapy I realise that this is because, when I was around two, my mum put a jug of boiling hot fat (she was purifying it) onto a high shelf, so that we couldn't reach it. My brother was not put off and dragged a table to stand on because he wanted to see what was in the jug. He still couldn't see in but he could reach it, so he tipped forward, I was standing on the floor below and he tipped boiling fat onto my arm.
I don't actually remember this happening, I've just had the story retold, but the subconscious mind remembers everything..like a photographic memory.....so whenever I can't see something on a shelf and have to reach for it...my mind remembers the pain. Because I can't remember the incident..it manifolds as anger or irritation.
...of course, now that I know that.....I don't have a problem with it anymore because I realise the object on the shelf won't hurt me.
...hope that makes sense

That's actually really interesting.