[kistar]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

That seems pretty likely Chuff.



I disagree, in my own personal experience I've found if you let people get away with bad behaviour they'll keep on walking all over you, if you stand up for yourself and give back what you're getting from them, they tend to not treat you badly in future. It doesn't change them in general but it does make them treat you personally different because they know you won't be treated that way easily. I don't think people like Caroline learn from others being nice, that just makes them push boundaries even further.

What you're saying should be the way to change peoples perspectives but sadly it just doesn't work on most people.

Well if you have a victim mentality (not suggesting you do) I guess you imagine the world is against you and you have to fight your corner at all costs, in reality though everyone is dealing with themselves and in most cases I would say do things react a way because of their own insecurities and life experiences. If some one was treating you in a way you did not like and were able to approach them calmly and tell them it would be a very powerful affirmation of who you are . I was resolving problems this way from the age of 7 when I went to boarding school, and 9 times out of 10 you found that the problem was in your head and not real, we were taught to resolve by debate . Talk to the girl you think has problem with you, tell her how you she has made you feel and listen to what she has to say. it works you should try it .