[Shaun]

The only thing I can recommend, as someone who lost two in the same year, is to talk about it with those who you still have. Obviously it depends on what type of person you are - reunite with them to celebrate their memory, or trade stories, or visit places where you have fond memories... only if you feel comfortable of course, don't go places or do things if you're feeling too upset...

I personally have a lot of differences with my family... tastes, behaviour and so on, so although I occasionally find some of their tributes a little tacky or something (my mum originally wanted a white gravestone with some weird emblem in it for my older brother), there's obviously still a tonne more good stories and similarities to reminisce with.

I'm not saying this will heal all wounds because it won't, and death (especially as you describe it being a shock) won't really ever lead to a happy place where you're all resolved and moved on, but for me personally I think it's just nice to look back occasionally.