[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Livia

I don't agree with 'most of the time', but I will go with 'some of the time'

Anyway... Marc likes it.

Marc is the exception to the rule tbf

Originally Posted by JamesBond007

When i hit 8 years old (i'm now 32) thats when i got the same wooden spoon or i tell your dad your been bold treatment. Never got smacked from that day forward. Just got the silent treatment if i got into trouble but to be fair i never was bad. Just as you said it was acceptable bck then.

I think it's worse the older your child gets too........I don't really agree with it ever but I can see some logic behind giving a toddler a smack to stop them from doing something that might be dangerous. I think hitting a teenager is just wrong on so many levels

[JamesBond007]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I think it's worse the older your child gets too........I don't really agree with it ever but I can see some logic behind giving a toddler a smack to stop them from doing something that might be dangerous. I think hitting a teenager is just wrong on so many levels

Plus it looked slightly silly when your taller and stronger then your Dad and he tries to smack you . But yeah when your 13/14 years of old been given out too is the normal thing to do but smacking is a bit silly. But sadly a lot of children and teenagers are put through worse things by Parents that don't care.

[Marc]

Originally Posted by Livia

I don't agree with 'most of the time', but I will go with 'some of the time'

Anyway... Marc likes it.

Well

[arista]

Originally Posted by Livia

I think if someone wants to discipline their own kid with a slap then that's up to them. So long as that person is quite clear on the difference between slapping a child as a punishment, and beating the crap out of them. I was slapped a few times as a kid and I can say with my hand on my heart that I deserved it, I knew why it had happened and I never thought for one moment I was abused or that my parents didn't love me.

Yes
Very True

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by JamesBond007

Plus it looked slightly silly when your taller and stronger then your Dad and he tries to smack you . But yeah when your 13/14 years of old been given out too is the normal thing to do but smacking is a bit silly. But sadly a lot of children and teenagers are put through worse things by Parents that don't care.

This is true

[Jack_]

Resorting to violence in any aspect of life is one of the lowest things you can do. Resorting to violence and physical abuse when disciplining your child is even worse. Uncalled for, lazy and morally wrong.

Excluding self-defence, violence is and never will be the answer. To anything.

[Ammi]

..it sounds like a parent who had no control over a situation and hit out...not really the way to resolve anything imo, except showing her daughter how not to act when you lose control.....

[Munchkins]

I think it's just lazy to slap someone tbh to discipline them, it's better to discuss points on both sides, slapping and hitting shows that the parent is unwilling to discuss what has gone wrong tbh and why the argument has occured..
When you're little maybe a slap on the bum as a punishment is ok, but this girl is 14, so i think hitting is extreme :SS
i've never been hit by my parents, except by a cushion once

"Before I even had time to think what I was doing"

shows hitting is not a way for overall effective discipline, its just heat of the moment action..
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[Livia]

I have the best set of parents in the world. I couldn't have hoped for better. I love and respect them totally and I consider myself lucky to be their child... and yet I've been slapped once or twice. It's kind of annoying to hear people paint them as "lazy" or " out of control" because they have smacked both me and my brother when we were kids.

People get all wound up by a parent chosing to discipline their own child with a smack. And meanwhile, kids languish in children's homes, suffer abuse and neglect and sometimes die at the hands of violent parents. There are worse things in the world than a smack administered with restraint from a parent who loves you.

[Munchkins]

Originally Posted by Livia

I have the best set of parents in the world. I couldn't have hoped for better. I love and respect them totally and I consider myself lucky to be their child... and yet I've been slapped once or twice. It's kind of annoying to hear people paint them as "lazy" or " out of control" because they have smacked both me and my brother when we were kids.

People get all wound up by a parent chosing to discipline their own child with a smack. And meanwhile, kids languish in children's homes, suffer abuse and neglect and sometimes die at the hands of violent parents. There are worse things in the world than a smack administered with restraint from a parent who loves you.

Were you 14? i find it fine for a younger child, and i do think it works but i just think its a lot different for a 14 year old tbh :S

[Tom4784]

Having to resort to hitting your kids is a sign of bad parenting, if the only thing they respond to is violence then you've ****ed up somewhere.

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Having to resort to hitting your kids is a sign of bad parenting, if the only thing they respond to is violence then you've ****ed up somewhere.

Agreed! If you can't talk to your kids then you're doing something wrong.

[arista]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

Agreed! If you can't talk to your kids then you're doing something wrong.

But she was talking to the 14 year old
Then Bang - The Door was Slammed in her face

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by arista

But she was talking to the 14 year old
Then Bang - The Door was Slammed in her face

..so she reacted back with violence..what lesson does that teach..?...

[Kazanne]

This pretty hard for me to answer as when I look around at some of the kids of today , they seem out of control , rude and inconsiderate , these are the ones from that time when discipline in schools was forbidden and parental discipline challenged , not ALL kids but certainly some take advantage of knowing they cannot be punished much , even by policemen . I think whatever works for you is fine , I got the odd clip around the ear ,but never more than that as I was too afraid to push the boundries ,some kids aren't , infact they seem to delight in being disruptive and rude,so for that reason I think it's not such a good thing not to be able to punish them by a swift clip,my mom and dad were quite strict and today I am quite happy they were,I don't think it is a bad thing if it's not done too much.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by Munchkins

Were you 14? i find it fine for a younger child, and i do think it works but i just think its a lot different for a 14 year old tbh :S

By the time I got to 14 I had more respect for my parents than ever to have slammed the door in their face.

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

This pretty hard for me to answer as when I look around at some of the kids of today , they seem out of control , rude and inconsiderate , these are the ones from that time when discipline in schools was forbidden and parental discipline challenged , not ALL kids but certainly some take advantage of knowing they cannot be punished much , even by policemen . I think whatever works for you is fine , I got the odd clip around the ear ,but never more than that as I was too afraid to push the boundries ,some kids aren't , infact they seem to delight in being disruptive and rude,so for that reason I think it's not such a good thing not to be able to punish them by a swift clip,my mom and dad were quite strict and today I am quite happy they were,I don't think it is a bad thing if it's not done too much.

I agree, but some parents go too far. If you make someone bleed then that's assault in my book.

[LemonJam]

I really, really hate these threads. My mum really is the best I could ever ask for and every punishment she's given me has been warranted. I'm not going to have anyone tell me otherwise because not only are they saying she's a bad parent but it's implying I'm poorly raised, which as conceited as it may sound I'm really, really not. :\

Yes it can get taken too far, but from the people I know most people who were smacked/slapped every now and then don't hold a grudge against their parents and in hindsight they can see why they did it.

[Livia]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

I really, really hate these threads. My mum really is the best I could ever ask for and every punishment she's given me has been warranted. I'm not going to have anyone tell me otherwise because not only are they saying she's a bad parent but it's implying I'm poorly raised, which as conceited as it may sound I'm really, really not. :\

Yes it can get taken too far, but from the people I know most people who were smacked/slapped every now and then don't hold a grudge against their parents and in hindsight they can see why they did it.

Completelyagree. I thought I was on my own here... It makes me mad to have my wonderful parents' child-rearing skills called into question.

[MTVN]

Originally Posted by LemonJam

I really, really hate these threads. My mum really is the best I could ever ask for and every punishment she's given me has been warranted. I'm not going to have anyone tell me otherwise because not only are they saying she's a bad parent but it's implying I'm poorly raised, which as conceited as it may sound I'm really, really not. :\

Yes it can get taken too far, but from the people I know most people who were smacked/slapped every now and then don't hold a grudge against their parents and in hindsight they can see why they did it.

Agree with this, annoys me when people generalise those who occasionally smack their kids as bad parents

[Vanessa]

Occasionally is fine, but not when it's everyday.

[Kazanne]

Originally Posted by Vanessa

I agree, but some parents go too far. If you make someone bleed then that's assault in my book.

I think sometimes it's is done out of fright or frustration Vanessa,my little boy is always up to mischief and I have shouted at him as he has scared me sometimes,he is a devil for putting stuff in his mouth(something I have a fear of)he is also sent to the naughty step,I find the thing that works best is taking something off them they like.And no you'de never go so far as to make anyone bleed.

[Vanessa]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

I think sometimes it's is done out of fright or frustration Vanessa,my little boy is always up to mischief and I have shouted at him as he has scared me sometimes,he is a devil for putting stuff in his mouth(something I have a fear of)he is also sent to the naughty step,I find the thing that works best is taking something off them they like.And no you'de never go so far as to make anyone bleed.

I know toddlers can be really hard work. My two year old nephew is just like Dennis the menace! Always up to no good!

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by MTVN

Agree with this, annoys me when people generalise those who occasionally smack their kids as bad parents

I'm not saying it makes someone a bad parent, I'm saying that I don't think It's the right way to discipline a child. I just can't see how hitting someone is a good way to teach them right from wrong.

And to those saying well my parents hit me and I'm fine, did they hit you when you were a teenager?