[Kizzy]

Originally Posted by Jack_

Well I'll let her answer that.

And no, because the way I see it is, if you wish to give yourself a label, that's fine. If you don't want to give yourself a label, that's fine. People can identify themselves however they wish and it's rude to directly criticise those labels. I'd actually quite like to make the point that before this happened last night many people were asking questions like 'well surely it's just the same thing as bisexual?' and 'what's the difference between them?' and you'll notice I didn't have an issue - because they're enquiring and not being insulting about it.

Besides, if you believe that is the case - she was accusing herself of trying to be 'different' for the hell of it by using the pansexual label. That doesn't make sense, so it can't be the case. Even if it is, it's still offensive to people who are. I don't have to identify myself as that to find it offensive you know, as I made clear, if the comments had been directed at any other sexual orientation this whole thread would have panned out exactly the same.



Well from what I have gathered she has claimed in this thread and in other threads like it to be bisexual, that's what she voted on the poll - there is an option for 'Unidentified' so forgive me for misinterpreting if that is the case, it's not exactly my fault is it? A couple of people asked me for how I saw pansexuality, so I explained - it's nothing to do with 'deciphering' how anybody feels. That's how I see it, another member then insinuated that Ninastar was pansexual so what am I supposed to do when she's clearly voted and stated otherwise? You're making out like she is yet she's stated she isn't and has voted bisexual. If that isn't the case then I apologise (I'm able to), but like I said, all I have to go off is how she has explained her sexuality, so I'm hardly going to decide anything else for her am I? I don't even understand what this has to do with the issue...

And Christ almighty, where am I supposed to start with that? It's quite easy for somebody who hasn't had struggles with understanding their sexuality to make out that it's not as complex and as difficult as some people make out, it's alright when you're sitting pretty without a care in the world in regards to that aspect of your life. But funnily enough it isn't for those who do have to experience it, and for you to make out people are hypersensitive about it when there are people (youths in particular) who feel isolated from society and end up self-harming and taking their lives over this kinda thing is just unreal. The heterosexuals that struggle with their sexuality are few and far between and as such, you have absolutely no understanding of how anybody else is feeling.

There you go again, just stop... you don't know anything about anyones sexuality past, present or future.
I would tend to agree with nina, there are those who bleat and wring their hands as though they are the only ones in the universe who faces such struggles, and downplays the feelings and the psychological trauma suffered by others deemed to be less troubled for whatever reason.