[Z]

Well Cherie, the point I'm trying to make is that it then makes me feel worse when, inevitably, I do not succeed as I expected, and then have to face telling them that, actually, I was right, and then they feel bad for saying all this inspirational bull**** in the first place. I often don't tell them when I'm trying to achieve something until after I've achieved it, because they always do it. I'd much rather be able to tell them I'm doing something and hear "good luck" in response.