[Z]

I'm surely not the only one who has parents like this - say you're telling them about something you're doing, idk, some kind of competition or whatever, and you're saying, realistically, you're not going to win but you think you could do well and that still means a lot to you - and then they're like "nooo don't be silly of COURSE you're going to win you can do ANYTHING" and you're like NO **** OFF I'M NOT SAYING THIS TO BE CUTE, I'M SAYING THIS BECAUSE IT'S THE REALITY AND YOUR SUPPORT IS COMPLETELY MISPLACED AND USELESS AND IS MAKING ME FEEL PATRONISED OMG

just me?

[Jake.]

erm

[Smithy]

[LemonJam]

My parents are the type to pretty much tell me I'll fail before I tell them what I'm doing. Love them tho

[King Gizzard]

hmph

[Z]

I really hate it, they think I'm being a pessimist and are always saying "you should believe in yourself more" and **** and it's like yeah, maybe that is true some of the time, but not when I'm stating cold hard facts AAAAAAAAAAAAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH

[Cherie]

That's generally what supportive parents do. Shame on them. They really should have told you there is no effing way you are going to win and stop wasting your time doing it and their time telling them about it, and it was time for them to go down the pub to get hammered.

[King Gizzard]

Excuse me for going off topic but when people say hmph is it pronounced ''humf'' or what

[Z]

Well Cherie, the point I'm trying to make is that it then makes me feel worse when, inevitably, I do not succeed as I expected, and then have to face telling them that, actually, I was right, and then they feel bad for saying all this inspirational bull**** in the first place. I often don't tell them when I'm trying to achieve something until after I've achieved it, because they always do it. I'd much rather be able to tell them I'm doing something and hear "good luck" in response.

[Vicky.]

God damn those supportive parents

[Z]

Originally Posted by Vicky.

God damn those supportive parents

But it's not supportive, it's patronising! Supportive would be "we're proud of you for doing this, good luck!" They come out with "YOU ARE THE KING OF THE WORLD, DON'T BE SO PESSIMISTIC, IN FACT, ANY TIME YOU ARE REALISTIC, WE'RE GOING TO TELL YOU THAT YOU ARE BEING PESSIMISTIC!" -throws things-

[Z]

This is such a first world problem

[Kazanne]

I always tell my kids they can do anything they put their mind too,although they are quite young yet,I hope they realise I do it because I believe they can.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Zee

Well Cherie, the point I'm trying to make is that it then makes me feel worse when, inevitably, I do not succeed as I expected, and then have to face telling them that, actually, I was right, and then they feel bad for saying all this inspirational bull**** in the first place. I often don't tell them when I'm trying to achieve something until after I've achieved it, because they always do it. I'd much rather be able to tell them I'm doing something and hear "good luck" in response.

Honestly being a parent is such a hard job, all I can say to you is they are doing their best and thinking they are supporting you when they are just getting your back up. I know I do this all the time, my son just tells me I'm annoying him.. maybe just tell them how you feel in a jokey way, the penny will drop.

[Z]

I know there's just a point where you don't take that level of support seriously anymore, like the thing that caused me to start this thread was I was running for president of a uni society against this (really irritating...) boy who seemed to have chummed up to everyone without actually saying a thing about what he wanted to do if he won the role, and I told my parents about it and the response was "don't put yourself down, of course you'll win" and then, as I expected, I didn't win, and my mum brought it up like "so when are they announcing the results?" and I'm like "eh, yeah, they already did and I didn't win" and she didn't know what to say. Blaaah.

[Tom4784]

Take the damn praise you tart.

[Cherie]

She still thinks of you as her little boy..aw....trust me nobody tells you how hard it is to be a parent, every step of the way its a learning experience, are you the oldest?

[Marsh.]

Originally Posted by Zee

This is such a first world problem

This.

[Ryan57]

Originally Posted by Kazanne

I always tell my kids they can do anything they put their mind too,although they are quite young yet,I hope they realise I do it because I believe they can.

That's really nice, Kazanne.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Cherie

She still thinks of you as her little boy..aw....trust me nobody tells you how hard it is to be a parent, every step of the way its a learning experience, are you the oldest?

Middle child!

[Niamh.]

I agree with your parents, you're definitely going to win

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Zee

Middle child!

Oh blows my theory that your parents are making all their mistakes with you right out of the water

[lostalex]

Originally Posted by Zee

But it's not supportive, it's patronising! Supportive would be "we're proud of you for doing this, good luck!" They come out with "YOU ARE THE KING OF THE WORLD, DON'T BE SO PESSIMISTIC, IN FACT, ANY TIME YOU ARE REALISTIC, WE'RE GOING TO TELL YOU THAT YOU ARE BEING PESSIMISTIC!" -throws things-

or maybe they were right, but you just didn't believe in yourself enuf. Maybe if you had believed them and believed in yourself you wouldn't have lost. Confidence does play a big part in success.

[Z]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

I agree with your parents, you're definitely going to win

Haha Cherie, I think it's because my older brother was a bit of a rebel when he was younger and did a lot of stupid things, in contrast I'm really sensible and introverted for the most part.

I dunno Alex, a lot of the time that would be totally spot on, but sometimes I think you need to accept your limitations and be level headed about things and it really gets on my nerves when I do that and I get told I'm being pessimistic. The guy won by 5 votes and he didn't so much as give a manifesto, I think I was right to have the attitude I had, and I only shared that attitude with my parents, not even any of my friends. I on the other hand stated what I wanted to do and still lost.

[Marc]

Good luck on the X Factor zee x