[Ammi]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

my post was not aimed at your opionion, just in general
I think people don't think like you! in general, affairs are like being offered a new job, you see whats being offered, but you don't run in and tell your old boss your leaving straight away!

..I didn't understand that bit Sheriff..?...but the reason I said in my first post that people had the choice to act on attraction is also because the question was 'would you have an affair'..and that's generally people's perception of an affair but I do know 'being unfaithful' is defined by the individual couple's boundaries....I also think that people see things based on their own experience or the experience of people around them who they have seen hurt by such things, so I think my opinions are quite common...