[Ammi]

Originally Posted by thesheriff443

you make it sound like having an affair is black and white, its not, people stay in unhappy relationships all the time, and they test the water!,
people don't tend to jump out of one relationship into another its a lot slower.
affairs happen for different reasons and start in different ways.

..I'm sorry Sheriff, I'm not really sure what you're saying..well I think I am with some of it but if people 'don't jump out of one and into another'..then they're ending the current relationship first, is that what you're saying..?...that's not an affair as such then...maybe it is technically if they're married but they're not deceiving their partner..?....

..and yes, having an affair really is black and white...emotions/feelings etc may not be black and white but the choice to act on them is...you either end your current relationship before you act on them and are honest or decide to stay with your partner and don't act on them because you feel that your commitment to your partner is stronger and the thing that you want...it really is that simple....

EDIT:..and yeah they start in different ways because you've allowed them to start...