[thesheriff443]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..I'm sorry Sheriff, I'm not really sure what you're saying..well I think I am with some of it but if people 'don't jump out of one and into another'..then they're ending the current relationship first, is that what you're saying..?...that's not an affair as such then...maybe it is technically if they're married but they're not deceiving their partner..?....

..and yes, having an affair really is black and white...emotions/feelings etc may not be black and white but the choice to act on them is...you either end your current relationship before you act on them and are honest or decide to stay with your partner and don't act on them because you feel that your commitment to your partner is stronger and the thing that you want...it really is that simple....

EDIT:..and yeah they start in different ways because you've allowed them to start...

people don't just wake up one day and say im going to start an affair today
some people have affairs because they are unhappy with the person they are with but feel they cant leave because of things like kids.
or being an out cast from their family or religion.