[Pink Pegasus]

Originally Posted by lostalex

I think it is relative but at the same time, someone feeling bloated is not the same as being FAT.

It would be like a white person complaining... oh i'm so black, i've been tanning outside all day and my skin is sooo dark.

If you said that near a black person, i can understand that they might get offended.

If you you are moaning about it, it's basically saying that you think there is something wrong with it.

Same with being fat, if you are moaning about feeling fat, it makes it seem like you think there is something wrong or bad about being fat. so of course it would make the actual fat people in the room feel uncomfortable.

There is something wrong about being fat though. People have been told for years the bad health consequences of being overweight or obese so I don't see a problem with anybody saying that they "think there is something wrong with it" as long as they are talking about themselves or else giving a truthful opinion that someone asked them for.

[Before getting attacked I am saying this as someone who could do with losing a little weight myself]

Charlie wasn't talking to Wolfy, she was having a conversation with someone else and Wolfy completely butted in to complain about something that was none of her business. Charlie can feel fat if she wants and just because Wolfy is obese it doesn't give her the right to try and police other people's thoughts and words about how they are personally feeling about themselves.

I also hate this spokeswoman bullsh*t she's trying to pull. She doesn't speak for ALL fat people just because she is big herself.

I don't see why people should have to pussyfoot around Wolfy for fear of offending her. People never have any problem tutting and bitching to smokers about how gross and unhealthy they are, or telling them they stink or that their teeth are yellowing (even if they don't smoke around the person), but the same people would often never open their mouth to dare give any constructive criticism to somebody who overeats a lot and is obese.

It is absolutely nice to be tactful of course, and it would of course have been completely wrong if Charlie had gone up to Wolfy and made nasty comments to her about being obese, or if Charlie when talking about her own weight had started saying something like how 'fat people are also disgustingly horrible individuals.' That would of course have been both untrue and mean.

As it stands though, all she said was that her jeans wouldn't fit and so she felt fat, or something along those lines.
She didn't go overboard with negative descriptions of fat, she made no comment about Wolfy, infact she wasn't even talking to Wolfy at all, she made a simple observation about HER OWN body weight.
I don't think she did anything wrong.