[DanaC]

But here's the thing: if a behaviour is a male behaviour because men do it, then surely a behaviour is female if women do it. And if men developed that way of behaving because they found it fun or in some way satisfying then why do you assume women are doing it to be like men and not because they discovered how fun and in some way satisfying it is?

If you as a male don't find that kind of thing fun and someone else who is female does find it fun - which one of you us acting contrary to your gender?

Women aren't all alike. Some like getting blind drunk some don't. Some like going shopping some don't. Some like playing football some don't. Men also aren't all alike. Some like getting drunk and some don't. Some like going shopping and some don't. Some like playing football and some don't.

There are lots of women who fit into a traditionally feminine role and lots who don't. But that's ok. There are lots of men who fit a traditionally masculine role and lots who don't. That's ok too. Clearly, for you a more traditionally feminine way of being is more attractive. That's also cool. But why would you want all women to fit into a particular version if femininity ?