[Ammi]

Originally Posted by Cherie

But what your friends husband did was out of feeling physically neglected, but given she was pregnant his actions were totally selfish as she couldn't fulfil his needs at that time due to her pregnancy problems, they pregnancy wasn't going to last forever but he went ahead anyway. Anyway this is one of the grey areas I am talking about in this circumstance the cheater was 100% to blame.

..I think we'll have to agree to disagree Cherie......the cheater is always to blame for cheating, it really is that black and white to me...they may not share all the responsibility in any difficulties in a relationship and I do understand that, that's the bit that is 'grey'.. but they're the only ones responsible and to blame for their actions in how they handled those problems...