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Livia · 21-05-2014, 02:55 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

That's a cynical kind of an attitude

I would never cheat on Gav because I would know and I wouldn't be able to look him in the eye

Not everyone is the same, but you know, lots and lots of people cheat. If something's laid out of a plate, and you [not you per se] think that their partner won't get to find out about it, lots of people would take that opportunity. I'm cynical because humans are... human.

Niamh. · 21-05-2014, 02:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Livia

Not everyone is the same, but you know, lots and lots of people cheat. If something's laid out of a plate, and you [not you per se] think that their partner won't get to find out about it, lots of people would take that opportunity. I'm cynical because humans are... human.

Lots of people wouldn't though as well.

Livia · 21-05-2014, 02:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Marsh.

Of course it's not perfect. People cheat, they think they can get away with it. Precisely right.

BUT, we're talking about them excusing their behaviour through blaming their partner/relationship not people who cheat because it's the way they're made.

Cheating for cheating's sake is black and white, bin them.

For the record, I don't think it's ever right of acceptable for the person being unfaithful to lay the blame for their infidelity at the feel of the person being cheated on. That's just a cop out.

Livia · 21-05-2014, 03:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

Lots of people wouldn't though as well.

True. lots and lots of people. But some do... and some get caught. And some never do.

Vicky. · 21-05-2014, 03:01 PM

I would say its always the fault of the person cheating.

However its not always as black and white as just leaving your partner. Also feel theres a huge difference between a one off and a full on affair. A one off I could personally forgive pretty easily...an affair not so much.

Livia · 21-05-2014, 03:04 PM

I feel the same way Vicky. I could forgive a fling that was just sex... but if they had feelings for the other person that's be quite different.

Niamh. · 21-05-2014, 03:06 PM

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Originally Posted by Vicky.

I would say its always the fault of the person cheating.

However its not always as black and white as just leaving your partner. Also feel theres a huge difference between a one off and a full on affair. A one off I could personally forgive pretty easily...an affair not so much.

Well, with the affair, you have the lying to your face and sneaking around to add to just the actual cheating, don't you?

lol, this was a bit weird, Gav just rang me and our conversation was :

Gav : Did you cheat?
Me : Yeah
Gav : Me too
Me : ah that's ok then, i don't feel so bad

he was talking about what I ate for lunch lol

Vicky. · 21-05-2014, 03:07 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

Well, with the affair, you have the lying to your face and sneaking around to add to just the actual cheating, don't you?

Yeah..plus the knowing it wasn't just a weak moment too.

Livia · 21-05-2014, 03:08 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh.

Well, with the affair, you have the lying to your face and sneaking around to add to just the actual cheating, don't you?

lol, this was a bit weird, Gav just rang me and our conversation was :

Gav : Did you cheat?
Me : Yeah
Gav : Me too
Me : ah that's ok then, i don't feel so bad

he was talking about what I ate for lunch lol

Are you sure?

Oh I'm kidding, honestly I am xxxxxx

Kazanne · 21-05-2014, 03:10 PM

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Originally Posted by Ammi

..is the cheatee the partner do you mean..?...yeah I do believe when a relationship has difficulties then both partners need to address that because the 'fault' often lies with both and maybe it's something that can be worked on or maybe not but it still doesn't justify cheating though..they separate and then they're open to a new relationship....I'm not finished with you yet Cherie..

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That's what I was trying to say,you cannot just blame one person,yes it's wrong to cheat,but I was looking at the REASON.

Marsh. · 21-05-2014, 03:11 PM

There's not always a reason other than they have the horn for someone else.

Mystic Mock · 21-05-2014, 03:12 PM

The only time I think cheating is okay is if the other person did it first, in other instances though I don't agree with it.

Crimson Dynamo · 21-05-2014, 03:14 PM

I would imagine there are a large percentage of relationships that just dont find out

happens all the time

Niamh. · 21-05-2014, 03:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Livia

Are you sure?

Oh I'm kidding, honestly I am xxxxxx

Kazanne · 21-05-2014, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Marsh.

There's not always a reason other than they have the horn for someone else.

randy gits is also a reason

Niamh. · 21-05-2014, 03:17 PM

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Originally Posted by Vicky.

Yeah..plus the knowing it wasn't just a weak moment too.

Yeah exactly

Marsh. · 21-05-2014, 03:22 PM

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Originally Posted by The Mockinator

The only time I think cheating is okay is if the other person did it first, in other instances though I don't agree with it.

Marsh. · 21-05-2014, 03:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Kazanne

randy gits is also a reason

But not an excusable one.

Mystic Mock · 21-05-2014, 03:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Marsh.

Yeah pretend to forgive them and then cheat on them.

Yep I'm probably being really evil at the minute.

Ammi · 21-05-2014, 03:28 PM

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Originally Posted by Kazanne

That's what I was trying to say,you cannot just blame one person,yes it's wrong to cheat,but I was looking at the REASON.

..no you can't necessarily lay blame on one person for an unhappy marriage or any difficulties in the marriage, that's something two people have to address...but you can lay blame on one person for choosing to cheat....there are reasons for unhappy marriages, there are no reasons for cheating....there are only excuses...