[Ammi]

..I guess the thing is as well is that if they were already married and had done it 'secretly' then what would it achieve by being upset..you could kick and scream and shout....but it wouldn't change anything...and after all, the day is less important than the vows themselves..weddings and guest lists can be a nightmare anyway...just seeing how stressed it was all making them, I would probably much more feel...ughh, just go and elope....