[just thinkin]

Originally Posted by DemolitionRed

Thanks Just Thinkin, I just wanted to say something about the part you wrote that I made bold.

One of the main reasons I am in such a relationship/s is, no two people are alike. There are so many things that Chloe brings into my life that Steve can't and again, so many things Steve brings into my life that Chloe couldn't. I don't want to be the lover and partner of two people who have very similar personalities, I want to be the lover and partner of two people who are diversely different, whilst having good appreciation of those differences. The difference between Jade and me is, I need those personalities to merge together without conflict and all compliment each other.

Jade said something interesting at the start of BB. She said this was just something she needed to get out of her system now but would change once she was a little older. Perhaps I'm not comprehending what she means or perhaps I'm right in thinking that Jade is just into open sexual relationships that are neither serious or meaningful. To me this is more representative of swinging without being part of a swingers club.

Saying that, who am I to make judgement!!

she was very certain that when she found 'the one' that all this polyamouris stuff would stop. If you go around telling people you are polyamourus you must believe in it - it must be part of your lifestyle - it is not something that you can say you live your life by, but oh wait...when you find 'the one' it will all change. If you are polyamours you would tend to gravitate towards people who are like minded. You cannot then say, actually I want to stop now and you should too - because that's the reason you met in the first place. She's a faker- don't get me wrong I am very open minded and have no problem with being polyamouris, or anything else a person wants to be, but Jade thinks she can pull the wool over people's eyes by her words - her actions tell the exact opposite.

[rionablue]

Originally Posted by just thinkin

she was very certain that when she found 'the one' that all this polyamouris stuff would stop. If you go around telling people you are polyamourus you must believe in it - it must be part of your lifestyle - it is not something that you can say you live your life by, but oh wait...when you find 'the one' it will all change. If you are polyamours you would tend to gravitate towards people who are like minded. You cannot then say, actually I want to stop now and you should too - because that's the reason you met in the first place. She's a faker- don't get me wrong I am very open minded and have no problem with being polyamouris, or anything else a person wants to be, but Jade thinks she can pull the wool over people's eyes by her words - her actions tell the exact opposite.

Actually I know a girl who had multiple relationships (both agreed by her and her partners) and in her early thirties she met someone and got married and the guy know about her past and was ok with it as he had no doubt had a lot of relationships not all at the same time. So maybe this disproves your point that she should stay that way always, By the way this girl was not promiscuous or overly sexual or anything. It just suited her and both she and her partners were happy to accept that. Its a good thing to be open with someone when you start a relationship rather than doing what a lot of people do CHEAT BEHIND their partners back

[just thinkin]

Originally Posted by rionablue

Actually I know a girl who had multiple relationships (both agreed by her and her partners) and in her early thirties she met someone and got married and the guy know about her past and was ok with it as he had no doubt had a lot of relationships not all at the same time. So maybe this disproves your point that she should stay that way always, By the way this girl was not promiscuous or overly sexual or anything. It just suited her and both she and her partners were happy to accept that. Its a good thing to be open with someone when you start a relationship rather than doing what a lot of people do CHEAT BEHIND their partners back

fair enough, but funnily enough Jade didn't meet somebody to change her mind and settle down - she already knows that when's she's finished playing the field she will settle down with one person - thats not polyamourus - thats playing the field like all young people do before they settle down. She's made a bit of a plonker out of herself really. if she really was polygamous she wouldn't even be thinking about settling down with one person.

[Pink Pegasus]

Originally Posted by just thinkin

fair enough, but funnily enough Jade didn't meet somebody to change her mind and settle down - she already knows that when's she's finished playing the field she will settle down with one person - thats not polyamourus - thats playing the field like all young people do before they settle down. She's made a bit of a plonker out of herself really. if she really was polygamous she wouldn't even be thinking about settling down with one person.

Yeah that's what I questioned about her explanation too. She also described it as "just a phase" whilst it was my understanding that it was a lifelong belief somebody had (or at least thought it would be lifelong and didn't think of it as just a phase). She contradicted herself too when in the one conversation she said she believed you can absolutely love more than one person but then went on to say something like she believes you can actually have only one soulmate/true love (?) and that she would marry that person. She was "free to the bone" but at the same time wants one day to settle, marry and be completely monogamous to that one person and for them to be completely monogamous to her.

I think she was just simply describing that she is young, doesn't want to settle yet and is into open relationships. Nothing wrong with that and she definitely doesn't deserve to get called nasty names because of it.

I don't think what she described was genuine polyamory though because she said it was just a phase and contradicted herself a few times. (I could be wrong though)

I think she just used the word polyamory for attention or else to sound interesting or different in the audition process but she just came across sounding a bit silly to me.

Not too keen on the word "immoral" in this instance myself though. It does sound very judgemental to me, but I suppose he's entitled to his belief's too. I wouldn't agree with him though that it was "immoral".