[user104658]

Originally Posted by Smithy

Personally if something like this happened to me, I'd have printscreened it, reported it to Facebook and then admin, not deleted it and made a throwaway comment about it in the thread looking for attention

But hey, that's just me I guess

Probably is just you, I'd just delete it too.

Actually, no, I'd be like...



...but I think that IS just me

[Samuel.]

Originally Posted by JoshBB

I find it quite offensive tbh. Are straight people killed for being straight?? Do straight people have to lie about your sexuality for a while and worry about how your family might react? no. Do straight people have to limit their holidays so that they don't have to worry about being arrested or attacked?? no.

You just had to go tempt fate

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Samuel.

You just had to go tempt fate

Why what's happened? Is this cause of the death threats?

[Good King Glennceslas]

We don't know for sure there has been death threats tbf

[Samuel.]

Originally Posted by Chaos

Why what's happened? Is this cause of the death threats?

Yes, I'm joking

[Ninastar]

Originally Posted by Samuel.

Yes, I'm joking

oh okay, LOL.

But yeah, kinda goes to show that stuff like this does happen, because he had an opinion someone didn't like... Disgusting really.

[Good King Glennceslas]

I just googled and this was literally the first thing that came back

Heterophobia is one of those ridiculous terms that gets thrown around like “reverse racism” or “trans privilege” that make anyone with any grasp of reality face/palm into a coma.22 Sep 2013

[JoshBB]

Originally Posted by Quasar

I just googled and this was literally the first thing that came back

Heterophobia is one of those ridiculous terms that gets thrown around like “reverse racism” or “trans privilege” that make anyone with any grasp of reality face/palm into a coma.22 Sep 2013

lmao

[Ammi]

Originally Posted by bobnot

Lovely post and well summed up. Unfortunately i had to step away from the thread after the last attempt turned into what it did and i ended up having to delete death threats from my personal facebook account which i regret ever posting here over a year ago.
A very strange reaction i have no idea why some felt threatened by the idea or why a couple of them were so dim to feel threatened by it (one of them called george apparently)
Im done here this has finished it off for me. Too many idiots.

Originally Posted by Smithy

*would just like to say George didn't post on bobnots Facebook if that's what he's implying*

..just one last post because I think it's all becoming a little silly and really shouldn't be..

..(if it's what I'm thinking of..)..Bob made a thread quite a while ago and it was something lovely he was doing for his grand daughter...to be able to do this lovely thing, he asked for help from forum members who had Facebook accounts/access and obviously had to post his details in the thread..anyway it all turned out as he'd hoped with support from TiBB and one of those great times and heart-warming things of 'community TiBB'...so ironic and awful for him that now such a lovely thing and 'love' thing has been used for 'hate'...but if it is what I'm thinking..(how his Facebook was 'searched'..)..then as it's a public thread, it wouldn't have to be a member at all or anyone involved it the thread, it could really be anyone 'offline', couldn't it..which obviously makes it more difficult for Admin as well...

...but if certain terminology was used in the thread that wasn't good at all, then it would be the obvious thought that it was someone in the thread also../an obvious conclusion to make because the 'hate' seemed directly linked to the thread/posters for Bob.../you know...and obviously I understand why people are taking offence as well as they know there is no involvement from them...so all getting a little silly really and just think about it and how it's escalating ..when no one probably can be faulted here...


..I do believe Bob has had this happen to him and I personally believe there was no involvement from anyone in this thread and including George in that as well....

[kirklancaster]

Originally Posted by Ammi

..just one last post because I think it's all becoming a little silly and really shouldn't be..

..(if it's what I'm thinking of..)..Bob made a thread quite a while ago and it was something lovely he was doing for his grand daughter...to be able to do this lovely thing, he asked for help from forum members who had Facebook accounts/access and obviously had to post his details in the thread..anyway it all turned out as he'd hoped with support from TiBB and one of those great times and heart-warming things of 'community TiBB'...so ironic and awful for him that now such a lovely thing and 'love' thing has been used for 'hate'...but if it is what I'm thinking..(how his Facebook was 'searched'..)..then as it's a public thread, it wouldn't have to be a member at all or anyone involved it the thread, it could really be anyone 'offline', couldn't it..which obviously makes it more difficult for Admin as well...

...but if certain terminology was used in the thread that wasn't good at all, then it would be the obvious thought that it was someone in the thread also../an obvious conclusion to make because the 'hate' seemed directly linked to the thread/posters for Bob.../you know...and obviously I understand why people are taking offence as well as they know there is no involvement from them...so all getting a little silly really and just think about it and how it's escalating ..when no one probably can be faulted here...


..I do believe Bob has had this happen to him and I personal believe there was no involvement from anyone in this thread and including George in that as well....

Thank you Ammi - I understand a little better now. I have expressed my sympathy for Bob, and it is extended to anyone who suffered vitriol during the posts which I missed.

I know better than most what that can feel like.

[Ashsleigh]

Originally Posted by Quasar

It's been going round in circles for days. It is, as I've said numerous times, ridiculous to think such a thing exists in society because in my opinion it doesn't and its offensive to anybody that has suffered abuse because of who they are but I'm merely stating my opinion like those have been who are in agreement with such a thing.

Yes but phobias aren't a "society" thing, it's not about equality or about straight people having more rights than gays, it's just a phobia of straight people which I'm sorry for disagreeing with you, but I'm sure is something that people experience?

[Good King Glennceslas]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

Yes but phobias aren't a "society" thing, it's not about equality or about straight people having more rights than gays, it's just a phobia of straight people which I'm sorry for disagreeing with you, but I'm sure is something that people experience?

It's laughable

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

Breeders

Isn't this a prime example though, the fact that straight people can be referred to in this way and it's funny, turn that around and call a gay couple "unable or breed without help" and all hell would break loose

[the truth]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Isn't this a prime example though, the fact that straight people can be referred to in this way and it's funny, turn that around and call a gay couple "unable or breed without help" and all hell would break loose

yep endless hypocrisy and double standards from people who demanded we get rid of double standards and hypocrisy, its a joke

[Jessica.]

How is being called a breeder offensive?

[Candy Annie Cane]

Had I been called a breeder a few years ago whilst going through unexplained infertility I would have been personally offended. It's like anything else...its not the word but the intimation that's offensive. If it's said in a derogatory manner it is meant to offend therefore is offensive

[Ashsleigh]

I'd also like some people to realise that Heterophobia and Discrimination of Straight People are not the same thing. True, you can't discriminate a straight person because they aren't a minority, but can you hate them/fear them? Yes.

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Jessica.

How is being called a breeder offensive?

The same way as any derogatory name levelled at someone's race or sexuality is offensive. It's "only" a word but then so are other words which cannot be used when describing people

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

I'd also like some people to realise that Heterophobia and Discrimination of Straight People are not the same thing. True, you can't discriminate a straight person because they aren't a minority, but can you hate them/fear them? Yes.

The two are not mutually exclusive imo

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Cherie

Isn't this a prime example though, the fact that straight people can be referred to in this way and it's funny, turn that around and call a gay couple "unable or breed without help" and all hell would break loose

Because an LGBT person living in the same circumstances as you will inevitably lead a lesser quality of life. You will never have to face the same judgement or persecution so complaining about things like being called a 'breeder' is ridiculous, you would crumble if you had to lead the life of an LGBT person if you're complaining about being called a 'breeder'.

[Cherry Christmas]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Because an LGBT person living in the same circumstances as you will inevitably lead a lesser quality of life. You will never have to face the same judgement or persecution so complaining about things like being called a 'breeder' is ridiculous, you would crumble if you had to lead the life of an LGBT person.

You know nothing about my life so are not in a position to judge.

[Candy Annie Cane]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Because an LGBT person living in the same circumstances as you will inevitably lead a lesser quality of life. You will never have to face the same judgement or persecution so complaining about things like being called a 'breeder' is ridiculous, you would crumble if you had to lead the life of an LGBT person if you're complaining about being called a 'breeder'.

Still doesn't make it acceptable though or non offensive to some people. Whilst facing infertility I wouldn't have thought, **** people are calling me a breeder when I would give my life for a child. But I can't have one...ah well it could be worse I could be judged more if I were LGBT? It's about perspective really.

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by Cherie

You know nothing about my life so are not in a position to judge.

Well, considering you're complaining over essentially nothing it's only natural for me to assume that you wouldn't cope with the struggles that LGBT people face.

[Tom4784]

Originally Posted by AnnieK

Still doesn't make it acceptable though or non offensive to some people. Whilst facing infertility I wouldn't have thought, **** people are calling me a breeder when I would give my life for a child. But I can't have one...ah well it could be worse I could be judged more if I were LGBT? It's about perspective really.

Yeah but that's not really the issue here. A few idiots doesn't make Heterophobia a thing.

[Shaun]

Originally Posted by Dezzy

Yeah but that's not really the issue here. A few idiots doesn't make Heterophobia a thing.

The main problem with everyone saying no is they have got hung up on the idea that because it isn't a big thing it isn't a thing at all.