[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Kyle

Ashley can you give us some examples of cases you think where people have actually changed their sexuality cos I just can't see it mate sorry.

Beliefs do not require sources.

[arista]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

Beliefs do not require sources.

They way you are brought up?

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

Beliefs do not require sources.

They should at least have some empirical basis if you want to challenge others to believe it.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Kyle

They should at least have some empirical basis if you want to challenge others to believe it.

I wasn't challenging anyone I just wanted to know what everyone else thought lmao

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

I wasn't challenging anyone I just wanted to know what everyone else thought lmao

Well ok then can you tell us how you have come to the conclusion yourself that you believe people can change their sexuality?

I'm not looking for an argument btw I am genuinely intrigued that is all.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Kyle

Well ok then can you tell us how you have come to the conclusion yourself that you believe people can change their sexuality?

I'm not looking for an argument btw I am genuinely intrigued that is all.

I don't think it's about people "changing" their sexuality at all. I mean, let's say me for example, I have liked boys all my life so I consider myself straight. But what if I see a girl and I like the look of her? I've never shown interest towards girls in the past. So have I been straight up until this point?

Then again, I suppose it's like saying we're asexual until we first fall in love with someone. We're not actually asexual, it's just an empty jar yet to be filled.

[Kyle]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

I don't think it's about people "changing" their sexuality at all. I mean, let's say me for example, I have liked boys all my life so I consider myself straight. But what if I see a girl and I like the look of her? I've never shown interest towards girls in the past. So have I been straight up until this point?

Then again, I suppose it's like saying we're asexual until we first fall in love with someone. We're not actually asexual, it's just an empty jar yet to be filled.

But would you be interested in that girl in a sexual way or by the fact that you are possibly temporarily allured to her charm/personality or the way she carries herself?

You mentioned to me the other day that you are around your early 20's so I would have hoped by now you would have noticed an attraction to females in general if you were by now but I don't know. Have you ever thought that you could be capable of being sexually attracted to a girl? What do you think of female sexual organs in general?

[Vanessa]

I think so, because it's not a choice for sure. It's something out of your control.

[Ashley.]

Originally Posted by Kyle

But would you be interested in that girl in a sexual way or by the fact that you are possibly temporarily allured to her charm/personality or the way she carries herself?

You mentioned to me the other day that you are around your early 20's so I would have hoped by now you would have noticed an attraction to females in general if you were by now but I don't know have you ever thought that you could be capable of being sexually attracted to a girl? What do you think of female sexual organs in general?

Yes, I was alluding to sexual attraction. I've always considered myself as straight because I've only liked men and not women, but I've never ruled out the possibility of being with a woman because it's not something that I've experienced and outrightly said I didn't like.a

Don't worry, I know the difference between a supermodel and an ugly if that's what you're saying.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Kyle

But would you be interested in that girl in a sexual way or by the fact that you are possibly temporarily allured to her charm/personality or the way she carries herself?

You mentioned to me the other day that you are around your early 20's so I would have hoped by now you would have noticed an attraction to females in general if you were by now but I don't know. Have you ever thought that you could be capable of being sexually attracted to a girl? What do you think of female sexual organs in general?

Yeah, I get what you're saying, I can think plenty of girls are attractive but the whole "mechanics" of sex with another girl kind of repulses me a bit

[Jack_]

Originally Posted by Ashley.

I don't think it's about people "changing" their sexuality at all. I mean, let's say me for example, I have liked boys all my life so I consider myself straight. But what if I see a girl and I like the look of her? I've never shown interest towards girls in the past. So have I been straight up until this point?

Then again, I suppose it's like saying we're asexual until we first fall in love with someone. We're not actually asexual, it's just an empty jar yet to be filled.

What you're demonstrating is the fluidity of the sexuality spectrum. Nobody is 100% heterosexual or 100% homosexual, for that to be the case you would have to be repulsed at the sight of anyone of the same/opposite sex, and anyone that genuinely argues that is a liar, and most likely uncomfortable with their sexuality.

Everybody can appreciate people they think are attractive regardless of their sexuality. For instance, when straight women compliment each other saying 'you look beautiful' or 'she's gorgeous' or when straight men can acknowledge 'he's a good looking guy', 'he's handsome' etc...to see beauty like this there has be an element of attraction. It's not sexual attraction, but that's not primarily what sexuality is about. It encompasses many things.

As for your point about falling in love with someone outside of your sexuality, I would argue that's entirely possible for just about anybody, and the reason for it is what I've outlined above. Would that make you sexually attracted to them? Probably not, but again - that's not just what sexuality is about.