[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

See, the logic doesn't work for me. Again it's about the equality aspect; if someone was to shout full force at me, I wouldn't obey them or respect them, I'd be tempted to give THEM a smack in the face.

Therefore, I don't expect my daughters to obey or respect someone who shouts at them. I teach them exactly the opposite . Someone who needs to raise their voice to make themselves understood is not deserving of my (or their) respect.

Look after my kids for a week.You'll be shouting soon enough

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey

Look after my kids for a week.You'll be shouting soon enough

My daughter is a 6-year-old teenager, she drives me insane half the time and I'd be lying if I said I've never raised my voice... but, it just makes her (quite rightly) even angrier, it doesn't work to stop her behaviour because (again, quite rightly...) she isn't in any way scared of me... she doesn't feel threatened, so it's just me being obnoxious.

Again, like I said, if another adult took it upon themselves to shout at me or raise their voice with me in the real world, they'd be swiftly told where to go. I don't see why the reaction should have to be any different for children. It does work both ways though; if she starts shouting at me I just tell her that I'm not listening and to **** off until she's calmed down, at which point I will listen .

When she was 3/4 I used to tell her that I couldn't understand shouting, it just sounded like loud noises, and pretend to look really confused. Gutted when that one stopped working, haha.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

My daughter is a 6-year-old teenager, she drives me insane half the time and I'd be lying if I said I've never raised my voice... but, it just makes her (quite rightly) even angrier, it doesn't work to stop her behaviour because (again, quite rightly...) she isn't in any way scared of me... she doesn't feel threatened, so it's just me being obnoxious.

Again, like I said, if another adult took it upon themselves to shout at me or raise their voice with me in the real world, they'd be swiftly told where to go. I don't see why the reaction should have to be any different for children. It does work both ways though; if she starts shouting at me I just tell her that I'm not listening and to **** off until she's calmed down, at which point I will listen .

When she was 3/4 I used to tell her that I couldn't understand shouting, it just sounded like loud noises, and pretend to look really confused. Gutted when that one stopped working, haha.

hahahaha that's actually pretty brilliant

[Toy Soldier]

Originally Posted by Niamh.

hahahaha that's actually pretty brilliant

That fateful day when she said "Daddy... I know you're just making that up..."

busted.

[Niamh.]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

That fateful day when she said "Daddy... I know you're just making that up..."

busted.

But yeah I agree with your other posts too, I want my kids to want to do the right thing because they understand why it's the right thing to do and they're also able to stop and put themselves in another persons shoes as well.

[Northern Monkey]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

My daughter is a 6-year-old teenager, she drives me insane half the time and I'd be lying if I said I've never raised my voice... but, it just makes her (quite rightly) even angrier, it doesn't work to stop her behaviour because (again, quite rightly...) she isn't in any way scared of me... she doesn't feel threatened, so it's just me being obnoxious.

Again, like I said, if another adult took it upon themselves to shout at me or raise their voice with me in the real world, they'd be swiftly told where to go. I don't see why the reaction should have to be any different for children. It does work both ways though; if she starts shouting at me I just tell her that I'm not listening and to **** off until she's calmed down, at which point I will listen .

When she was 3/4 I used to tell her that I couldn't understand shouting, it just sounded like loud noises, and pretend to look really confused. Gutted when that one stopped working, haha.

I'm gonna try that one.It might just work since i've never done it.

[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey

Look after my kids for a week.You'll be shouting soon enough